I recently applied to over 50 jobs and got zero interviews. And I’m not saying that for drama, I’m saying it because it honestly shocked me. I’ve never struggled to get interviews during my career. So when it was nothing but silence, I stopped tweaking my résumé and started asking a different question: what’s changed about how hiring works right now?

That silence made me zoom out and the context matters, because I wasn’t job hunting.

I’ve had my own business since 2010. I’ve worked with major corporations, government agencies, and private clients as an instructional designer and learning experience consultant.

I’ve built systems. Designed programs. Led multi-phase initiatives from scratch.

So when I say “zero interviews,” it’s not coming from a place of “I don’t know how to position myself.”

It’s coming from a place of, “What… what the hell is happening?”

And the reason I did this wasn’t because I was trying to get back into corporate.

I did it because I kept hearing the same thing from women in our age group:

“I’m qualified. I’m applying. And it’s like I’m invisible.”

So I decided to test it.

And I didn’t do a lazy version of this experiment.

For each of the 50+ positions I applied for, I tailored my résumé to reflect the language and the keywords from the job posting. I wrote unique cover letters for every role, speaking to the mission, the responsibilities, and exactly how my background aligned.

I wasn’t just tossing applications into the void and hoping for the best.

I was being intentional.

I was playing by the rules.

And still… silence. Not “no.” Not “we went another direction.” Just… nothing.

And even though I knew I was qualified, that kind of silence still messes with you. Not because you suddenly doubt your talent… but because you start wondering if the rules changed and no one told you.

Because silence doesn’t just disappoint you; it literally starts negotiating with you.

It has you thinking:

• Do I need another degree?

• Do I need another certification?

• Do I need to “modernize” my experience… even though I’ve been doing this job for years?

• Do I need to remove dates, edit job titles, or downplay leadership just to get seen?

And that’s the trap — because now you’re trying to fix yourself… when the real issue might be the filter.

But I want to pause here and say something. This isn’t about your qualifications. And it’s not about mine either. It’s about a system that’s comfortable overlooking women with depth, experience, and a fully-developed brain.

And yes, research backs that up.

So once I stopped taking the silence personally and started researching what’s happening system-wide, here’s what I found.

First, this is not rare. AARP found that about two-thirds (64%) of workers over 50 have seen or experienced age discrimination in the workplace. And 22% say they feel like they’re being pushed out because of their age.

And for women, the numbers are even higher — 67% of women over 50 have seen or personally experienced age discrimination.

But what really hit me is how much of it is subtle, the kind you can’t easily “prove,” but you absolutely feel. AARP also found that 60% of workers over 50 experienced subtle age discrimination, like assumptions that older employees are less tech savvy, they’re resistant to change, or they’re being overlooked for growth opportunities due to their age.

And then I wanted to know: okay, but what about hiring? Because a lot of us aren’t just dealing with bias at work … we’re dealing with bias trying to get work.

So I went beyond the headlines and started looking at field research; the kind where researchers send real applications to real jobs and track what happens.

A Federal Reserve Bank of San Francisco Economic Letter summed up evidence from a field experiment and said it plainly: there’s age discrimination in hiring, particularly against older women.

Another study based on over 40,000 job applications found robust evidence of age discrimination in hiring against older women, especially those near retirement age.

Even the Bureau of Labor Statistics has reviewed evidence that age discrimination in hiring exists, and notes it can be worse for older women than older men.

So if you’re listening and thinking, “Why does it feel like the door closes faster for women?”, that’s not you being dramatic. That’s pattern + proof.

And then there’s the tech layer, because hiring isn’t always a person reviewing your résumé with a great cup of coffee and good intentions.

More and more, it’s software.

And this is why I’m saying the system changed.

California rolled out new rules around employers using automated decision systems in hiring and those regulations took effect October 1, 2025. Basically acknowledging what we already feel: these tools can influence who gets opportunity, and they can create bias if nobody’s watching them.

And there’s also a case against Workday where applicants over 40 allege AI screening systematically excluded older candidates and a federal court actually allowed that to move forward as a collective action under the Age Discrimination in Employment Act.

So no, you’re not crazy for feeling like you’re getting filtered out before anyone sees you.

And I found myself wondering: what are they assuming when they see someone like me?

Are they assuming I’m too expensive?

That I’ll want to lead instead of follow?

That I’m “overqualified” which is often code for “we don’t know what to do with you”?

Maybe that I won’t adapt to their culture?

I can’t know for sure. But I do know this: they never even gave me the chance to be in the conversation.

And I want you to reflect on this too: have you noticed you’ve started editing things about yourself just to get a yes?

Have you been shrinking your experience? Avoiding certain words? Maybe leaving wins off your résumé so you don’t look “too senior”?

Because that’s what this kind of silence can train you to do …make yourself smaller.

This isn’t a pity party episode. This is a “name what’s real” episode.

I’m sure you’ve done everything right too. You’ve updated your resume. You’ve adapted your language. Stayed relevant. Simplified your story. Written killer cover letters. And still nothing.

So no. It’s not about qualifications.

It’s about assumptions.

It’s about invisibility.

But here’s where I want to pivot because this is the moment that changed everything for me:

I don’t need to prove my value to systems that were never designed to fully see me.

And neither do you.

So what if we stopped chasing validation from biased systems… and instead started building something we own?

Something aligned with our strengths, our values, and our actual lives.

This is why Just a Number exists.

Because I know what’s possible when women stop waiting to be chosen and start building from what they already know.

This is about ownership. This is about claiming your intellectual property.

About taking your lived experience and building something that doesn’t require a gatekeeper’s approval—something that fits your life now, not the version of success you were sold years ago.

Whether that looks like a learning experience, a workshop, consulting, maybe a book, digital products, a community … whatever it is it starts with you. It starts with you deciding: I’m not invisible. I’m just done asking permission.

So if this episode felt close to home… if you’ve been refreshing your inbox and wondering why no one’s calling you back to schedule an interview, it’s not just you.

And no, you’re not “too qualified.” And you’re not “too much.” You’re experienced. And that is an asset.

In the next few episodes, we’re going to talk about how to take your experience, your IP—your career, your story, your perspective—and start building from it.

Because you don’t have to wait to be picked.

You can pick yourself.

Thanks for listening to Just a Number. If you know a woman who needs this reminder, send her this episode and make sure you’re following so you don’t miss what’s next.

I’ll see you next time.

Source Notes

• AARP “Age Discrimination Holds Steady…” (64% seen/experienced; 22% pushed out; 60% subtle age discrimination + examples).

• AARP advocacy page noting women 50+ at 67%.

• Federal Reserve Bank of San Francisco Economic Letter (evidence points to hiring discrimination, particularly against older women).

• NBER working paper (40,000+ applications; robust evidence of hiring discrimination against older women).

• Bureau of Labor Statistics review (evidence suggests age discrimination in hiring exists and can be worse for older women).

• Holland & Hart: California ADS rules (effective Oct 1, 2025) + Workday collective action discussion.

Hi. If you listened to episode one, we talked about what it feels like to be invisible in the job market, even with decades of experience, and how that silence can be the nudge to start building something of your own. And before we go any further, I want you to know this. There isn't one right path that leads you here.

Some of you have built careers. Some of you have built families. Some of you have rebuilt after loss, divorce, burnout, or a major life change. Some of you have done all of this at the same time, which honestly deserves a trophy and I think a vacation.

Maybe you've been working part time. Maybe you've been raising a family. Maybe you've been caregiving. Maybe you've been in survival mode for a while, and now you're finally hearing your own thoughts again. Or maybe you've been in a career that technically worked, but it never really fit. And now you're looking around like, is this it? Are we really doing this for the next ten to twenty years, too?

If any of that sounds familiar, you're in the right place. Because what tends to happen somewhere between forty to sixty isn't that you fall behind. It's that you get honest. You stop performing a version of yourself that makes other people comfortable. You start craving meaning, clarity, simplicity, peace, creativity, freedom. And that shift can feel scary because we're taught that changing direction means we're failing.

But what if changing direction isn't failure? What if it's alignment?

Let's talk about this phrase starting over, because women say it like it's a confession. I'm starting over. I'm too old to start over. I don't want to start over. And I get it. Because starting over sounds like you lost everything.

But that's not what most of you are doing. You're starting from experience, from perspective. From wisdom. From knowing what you don't want anymore. From learning what drains you and recognizing what actually feels like you now.

That's not starting over. That's starting aligned. And aligned doesn't mean easy. It means true.

So, what does aligned really mean? People throw that word around like glitter. It's pretty, but it's messy. Here's what I mean by aligned. Aligned means what you're building matches who you are now, not who you were at twenty-eight, not who your family expects you to be, not who your old workplace trained you to become, who you are now.

Alignment looks like this. Your energy isn't leaking everywhere. Your values show up in your choices. You don't have to twist yourself into something that doesn't fit. Your work feels like it has a point. You can actually sustain it.

And if you're thinking that sounds great, Trish, but I don't even know what I want. Good. That's normal. Let's make it clearer.

Here's a quick alignment you can do in your head right now. Or you can write it down and do it later. Just three questions. First question: What drains you? Even if you're good at it. Not what you hate, what drains you even when you're doing it well.

Question two: what gives you energy even if you're not paid for it? What do you naturally research? What do you talk about without thinking? What do you get excited to share?

And question three: what do people consistently come to you for? Advice? Help? Perspective? A solution? Calm? Strategy? Taste? Organization?

When you answer these three questions, you're not starting over. You're collecting the raw materials you already have so you can build from truth instead of pressure.

Let's talk about passion for a second because that word gets dismissed way too easily. Passion isn't fluff. Passion is data. It's information about what matters to you. It's the thing you keep coming back to even after life pulls you away. And that's the kind of thing other people want to learn from.

For example, one of my favorite things to do is create abstract art. I'm not a professional artist. I don't have a degree in it. And no, I'm definitely not selling pieces in galleries. But I love it. And I've spent hours, probably hundreds of hours, experimenting, screwing up, learning what works and what doesn't. And once you spend enough time on something, you start building pattern recognition. You begin to notice which supplies are worth the money and which ones are hype. Which colors play nice together and which ones fight each other? How to fix a ruined piece without throwing it away. How to know when it's done. So, when someone sees something I made and asks, “how did you do that?” I have answers. That's value. That's experience. That's teachable. And yes, that can become a digital offer, a tutorial, a workshop, a course, a membership, a community.

Not because I'm the best. Because I care. And I can guide. And that's enough.

So, let me ask you, what's something you could talk about all day? Not what you've been paid to do. Not what's on your LinkedIn profile. I'm talking about the thing people ask you for advice on. The topic you can't stop talking about at lunch. And the thing your friends say “you're so good at that.”

Maybe it's parenting through hard times. Maybe it's planning travel on a budget. Maybe it's gut health. Grief. Creative writing. Maybe it's style for women over forty who don't want to look like someone else's idea of age appropriate.

And here are a few more that women often downplay. Organization systems, not Pinterest perfect. Real life systems. Meal planning with real schedules. Career transition strategy. Confidence after divorce. How to advocate for yourself or someone else at the doctor. Caretaking without losing yourself. Downsizing without losing your mind. Boundaries with family and friends. Design hacks. Whatever it is, you've got something.

If it's teachable, it's valuable. If it's repeatable, it's monetizable. And if it helps someone else, it matters.

One of the biggest things holding women back is this idea that we're not expert enough. But people don't need a guru. They need a guide. Someone a few steps ahead who can say, I've been there and here's what helped me. That's often more helpful than someone fifty steps ahead who can't even remember what it felt like to start.

Just remember, you don't need to know everything. You need to know enough to help someone move from confusion to clarity, from stuck to started, from overwhelmed to organized, from afraid to confident. That's what people pay for … movement.

Think about all the things you've figured out because you've lived through it. Managing anxiety, organizing a home after downsizing, learning to cook after a health scare, dating again after divorce, building a life in a new city, reinventing your style after weight changes, navigating menopause and still showing up anyway. These aren't resume lines. They're transformation stories, and they're teachable.

Here's a simple framework to turn your wisdom into an offer. No corporate flowchart energy. Just three simple things. Clue. Proof. Offer.

A clue is what do you keep coming back to? What do people ask you about? Proof is what you have done, solved, tried, refined, improved. And the offer is what could you teach, share or package to help someone else.

Let's take a look at two quick examples. A woman becomes ridiculously good at meal planning, budgeting, and feeding a family without wasting money. Clue is friends ask, how do you do this every week? The proof? She's been doing it for years with a system. So, the offer could be a meal planning template, a workshop, a low-cost guide, or maybe a membership challenge. That's not fluff. That's a skill.

Here's another. A woman learns to advocate for herself medically. Track patterns, prepare for appointments, and not leave feeling dismissed. Clue: People confide in her because she's calm and informed. The proof is she's lived it and developed a process. An offer could be a doctor’s visit prep kit, a short course, a support group. Again, not a resume line, but absolutely valuable.

Here's what I want you to hear. You don't need credentials to be credible. You don't need a job title to be qualified. You don't need permission to be visible. You just need to start.

Write about what you care about. Record short voice notes. Share stories from your life that someone else might relate to. And if you're thinking but what if no one cares? Let me be real. Someone won't. Someone is going to scroll right past you, but someone else will quietly think, “Oh my God, she just put words to what I've been feeling.”

That's the person you're talking to. You're not here to be for everyone. You're here to be for the people who need your kind of wisdom.

Whether you're coming out of a twenty-year career, or standing at the edge of something totally new. Your life, your passions and your perspective are enough. You're not starting over. You're starting aligned. You already have more to work with than you think. And if it matters to you, it's worth exploring. Because the goal isn't to build something impressive. It's to build something that fits. And when it fits, you can sustain it. When you can sustain it, you can grow it.

Thanks for listening. If you liked this episode, share it with a friend and make sure you're following the show so you don't miss what's next. In the next episode, we're breaking down what expertise is really made of because once you see it clearly, you stop doubting whether you're qualified and you start building from what's already true. Talk soon.

Welcome to the show. I’m excited to dive into this episode today. This one is for the ladies who are done shrinking their brilliance just because the internet likes twenty-year-old’s with ring lights.

This is for the woman who has a whole life’s worth of experience and still finds herself saying, “Yeah, but that doesn’t count.”

If you’ve ever dismissed what you know because it feels too normal, too obvious, or too messy, stay with me. Because what you call “just life” might be exactly what someone else needs help with.

Here’s the messy truth. Most women I work with are not stuck because they have nothing to offer. They’re stuck because they have too much, and it’s all tangled together in their head.

When you google the word “expert,” the internet acts like the entry fee is a TED Talk and a fancy title.

Meanwhile, real expertise often looks like this: you walk into a situation, and you instantly see what’s off. You know what to do next and you can explain it in a way that makes people exhale. That is expertise. Not the label but the impact.

I was talking to a friend recently. She’s absurdly good at organizing. Like, she can open a random closet and within ten minutes it looks like it belongs to a different person. It makes sense, it’s easy to find everything, and it’s no longer a chaotic mess.

When I asked her how she learned to do it, she kinda shrugged and just told me, “It’s nothing. I just… see it.”

And that right there is the trap. The things you are good at feel invisible to you because they are easy for you. But easy doesn’t mean worthless – it usually means practiced. And that’s why I want to redefine the word “expert” for us.

If you’ve been waiting for something to feel complex enough to count as “expertise”, you might be using the wrong measurement.

Let’s strip this all the way down. Expertise is anything you know how to do that makes life easier for someone else. That’s it.

It can be big. It can be tiny. I can come from your career, hobbies, maybe travels, or even the rabbit hole you go down at midnight because you need to figure something out.

If you can save someone time, money, stress, frustration, or that spiraling feeling of “Why is this so hard?”, that counts.

And if it feels obvious to you, that doesn’t mean it’s obvious to others. It usually means you’ve been doing it for so long that you stopped noticing it’s a skill.

So let me ask you something. Do people keep coming to you for the same kind of help? Like the same category of question, just a different person every time. Because if that’s happening, you’re not “just being nice.” You’re the go-to.

Or maybe you’re the one with the shortcuts. You don’t have to research for three hours. You already know what’s worth it, what’s a waste, what’s a red flag, and what’s just noise. That kind of clarity is rare.

And listen, if you can spot a mistake fast, it’s because you’ve already lived that lesson. You’ve made the mistake, fixed the mistake, and now you can see it coming for other people a mile away.

And if you’re the person who makes complicated things feel less scary? The translator. The calm one. The “Okay, here’s what we do next” person? That is expertise too.

Do you have any kind of proof in real life? Not internet proof. Real-life proof. A before-and-after. A result. A situation you improved. Maybe a mess you turned into something manageable. If you do, you’re not starting from zero. You’re already standing on something.

And here’s the point. If you heard yourself in any of those, congrats. You have something.  

Let me tell you about someone I follow on YouTube. In her 70s, she started a channel just for fun. No plan. No niche. No fancy setup. She talked about day-to-day life, little household tips, whatever felt relevant.

Over time, she noticed something: the videos where she showed people how to do things, like laundry tips, cooking on a budget, hanging curtains, little home hacks, those were the ones that got the most traction. And most interesting were the comments and questions she received. They were mainly from a much younger audience. People who were living on their own for the first time, starting a family, and setting up their household. So, she gave her audience the help they needed, and the channel just took off.

And here’s the really incredible part: she’s now in her 80s, still running her channel, still growing her audience, and she gets checks in the mail regularly from YouTube for her content.

She started with what she knew and shared it. And now she’s building community and income, all because she believed that what she had to offer might help someone.

That’s what expertise looks like in real life. Not a title. Not a spotlight. Not a certificate. It’s the thing you do without thinking. The answer you give in two minutes. The fix you can knock out in ten that would take someone else ten hours and three YouTube tutorials.

And if you’re thinking, “But I’m not the best,” perfect. You don’t need to be. You just need to be somebody who can help.

If you’ve been telling yourself you have nothing to offer because it isn’t “big enough,” I’m going to lovingly call that what it is: bullshit. The smallest things are often the most shareable. That thing you just know how to do … well somebody else is stuck there right now.

So, start giving your knowledge the credit it deserves. Not because you need to turn it into anything yet. Just because it’s real, and it’s helpful, and it matters. And you need to recognize it.

Thanks for hanging out with me today. If this episode made you think “Wait… I do know stuff” then it did its job.

Follow the show so you don’t miss what’s next. If you’re enjoying this so far, it would also be really helpful to us if you’d leave us a review!

I’ll see you in the next episode.

Hey, friends. Welcome back. Today I want to talk about something I've been watching happen in real time. Women in our age group starting businesses and not in a one day when life calms down kind of way in a real. I'm doing it now and I'm doing it this way. If you're already in business, I think this episode will help you put language to what you're seeing. And if you've been thinking about starting, I want you to leave today's episode with clarity and a real next step.

I'm going to reference a little bit of data just to ground this, but this is really a conversation about what's changing and why it makes sense. So here are two quick stats just to anchor what we're seeing. In 2024 women started about half of all new businesses in the United States. And that's a big jump from just a few years earlier. And women owned businesses overall represent millions of companies and contribute trillions to the economy.

So if you've been feeling that pull like, um, maybe I should do my own thing, you're not imagining it. This is happening at scale. And honestly, we can see it without a chart. Somebody's always starting something, whether it's a service, a shop, consulting, maybe a course or a community. It's everywhere.

Back in 2010, I was consulting as an instructional designer for a large legal firm, and I had thought about starting my own company for years, but I just didn't think it was the right time. But it was always there in the background, and my boss at the time suggested I start my own company. That mattered because sometimes you don't need permission. You need a mirror. Someone outside of you saying you're already doing this at a high level, why aren't you the one benefiting from it? So I did it. I quit the job, I started an LLC, and that firm became my first full time client.

I share that because entrepreneurship doesn't always look like a huge dramatic event for a lot of us. It's simply a smart transition, a bridge from where we are to where we want to be.

When people talk about women starting businesses later in life, they love to tell a one sided story. Corporate burnout, quit, started a business. That story is real, but it's not the whole picture. Plenty of women are starting from education, healthcare, non-profit work, ministry, service industries. Some are coming out of a long caregiving chapter and finally have the space to build something for themselves. Some have been doing what I call "informal entrepreneurship" forever: hair, catering, cleaning, nails, childcare, organizing, selling products. And now they're ready to make it official. You don't have to have a corporate resume to have business skills. Real life trains you too.

So if it's not just one background. Why is this happening so much right now? I think a few forces are stacking on top of each other, and once enough things stack, people move. One of the biggest shifts that happens in midlife is you stop thinking you need a brand new idea. Instead, you start noticing, Mm. I have skills that solve real problems. And sometimes it's not the flashy stuff. It's, It's that thing you do. So naturally, you forget it's valuable.

Think about the women who can walk into chaos and immediately organize it. That's operations. That's systems. That's project management. That can be a business. Or the person who's always been the teacher inside a classroom or outside of it, helping people understand things. That's training, curriculum coaching, course creation. Or the person everyone calls when they need help getting their home together, their schedule together, their health together. Those are markets with paying customers, too. At our age, you're not just building from imagination, you're building from patterns you've lived. And once you see that, the next part makes sense to.

A lot of us grew up believing a job was the answer. It was the safe option. Get a great job. Have insurance. Build towards your retirement. Work there for twenty five to thirty years and retire safely. But over the last several years, people have watched stable jobs become unstable very quickly. Roles change. Companies restructure. People get laid off with an email. So a lot of women are redefining security. So instead of thinking I need one job, it becomes I need income that isn't controlled by one decision maker.

Entrepreneurship starts to feel less like a dream and more like a practical plan. And then there's the reality of time. At this point in life, responsibilities stack up. For some, it's kids. For some of us, it's grandkids. For some of us, it's caregiving for our parents. For some, it's health, and for a lot of us it's simply the desire to have more control over our days. So entrepreneurship becomes appealing because it can be shaped around real life, not the other way around. Research backs this up, too. Women founders often name autonomy and flexibility as major reasons they start a new business.

Now, if this was twenty years ago, that flexibility would have been much harder to build. Technology has lowered the barrier to entry. You don't need a storefront to start. You don't need to hire a huge team. You can build a real business with a simple offer, a clear message, and a consistent way to reach people. And I think this matters especially for women in our age group, because many of us aren't trying to build something that costs us our peace. We're trying to build something sustainable. So part of what you're noticing is momentum. When women see more women like them doing something. It expands what feels possible.

And we're also seeing a broader trend of entrepreneurship shifting older over time. More people starting in their fifties and beyond than decades ago. That big jump in women starting businesses in recent years tells us this isn't some tiny wave. It's a real shift in who's building and when the path is more visible, the tools more accessible, and the motivation is stronger. That combination tends to keep growing.

Let's bring this home. If you've been thinking about starting something, here's a question that cuts through a lot of the noise. What do people already come to you for? Because that's usually the seed of the business, not what looks cool online, not what you think you should do. What do people consistently trust you with once you have that answer? Your next step isn't a full brand overhaul. Your next step is getting clear on a simple offer, something you can explain without a long backstory. I help blank do blank so they can blank. Then you look for your first few yeses, usually from people who already know you already trust. You already believe you can help. That's how most real businesses begin. Not viral. Not perfect. Real. If you've been feeling that internal nudge, pay attention to it. You're not starting from scratch. You're starting from experience.

If this episode made you think of somebody immediately, please send it to her. A lot of women don't need more hype. They need language for what they're already feeling. And one clear next step. Thanks for listening, and I'll see you next time.

How to let people know what you do without turning into a content machine
Can I ask you something? If you decided today you wanted to start something of your own, what would stop you faster? Would it be the tech, the time? Or would it be the part where you have to let people know what you do?

Because that part sounds simple, but it gets weird fast.

A lot of women are not trained to be online. They're not trained to build a personal brand. They just wait for the right people to find them, trust them, and say yes.

So today we're going to handle visibility in a normal person way. If you're on social media a lot, this will help. If you barely touch it, this will also help. You do not need a big following. You just need a clear way for people to understand what you do and how to get in touch when they need it.

All right, let's dive in.

Here's the deal. If nobody knows what you do, nobody can buy from you. And that's not motivational. It's just math. And before you roll your eyes and think, great, now I have to post every day—no you don't.

Visibility is not the same thing as constantly being on the internet. Visibility is simply making sure people can connect the dots: who you help, what you help with, and how they can reach you. That's the whole game at the beginning.

And honestly, the reason this feels hard is not because it's complicated. It's because it can feel really awkward. A lot of women have spent years being the reliable one, the capable one, the person who handles things behind the scenes, the one who solves problems and keeps moving. When you're used to being competent in private, being visible in public can feel like you're suddenly a beginner again—and nobody loves that feeling.

There's also the fact that visibility comes with people's opinions, and even if they never say them out loud, you can feel it sometimes. You can feel that “oh, she’s doing that now” energy. Even if the people around you are supportive, it can still feel vulnerable to say, “This is what I do,” and “This is what I want.”

So if you've been avoiding this part, you're not alone. The problem is, avoiding it comes with a cost. When you stay silent, people assume you're not available, or they assume you're not serious, or they just don't think of you. When the moment comes up and somebody needs exactly what you offer, most of the time it's not personal. It's just how humans work. We go to what we can see.

When something feels awkward, we tend to make it bigger than it needs to be. So instead of treating visibility like this giant personality makeover, let's shrink it down to what it actually is.

Visibility is not “look at me.” Visibility is “this is what I do.” That's it. It's giving people enough information so they can make a decision. Enough information so they can refer someone to you. Enough information so they can remember you when the moment is right.

You're not auditioning for strangers, and you're not competing with influencers. You're not trying to win the internet. You're simply making it easier for the right people to find you and understand you.

Once you see it that way, it becomes obvious why people get frustrated. They assume the problem is volume. They think: I need to be everywhere. I need to post more often. Maybe I need to show my face more.

But most of the time it's not volume, it is clarity. If your message is unclear, more posts will not help. More platforms will not help. More effort will not help. Clarity is what makes visibility work.

So instead of thinking “where do I need to show up,” a better question is: what do I need to say so people understand what I do? That question is calmer and it puts you back in control.

Before you worry about where to show up, you just need one clear sentence—something you can say without overthinking it.

Here's a simple structure we talked about last week: I help ___ with ___ so they can ___.

Here are some examples:
I help busy professionals organize their schedules so they can stop feeling behind all the time.
I help new managers lead with confidence so their teams actually follow through.
I help women simplify their home routines so life feels less chaotic.
I help small business owners get their systems together so they stop doing everything the hard way.

You can make this as broad or as specific as you want, but the key is that it is clear.

A lot of people try to sound impressive. They use vague words like empower, transform, elevate, align. These are great words, but they don't necessarily help someone understand what you actually do.

If someone can't repeat what you do after hearing it once, it's just not clear. We want simple. We want normal language. We want something your friend could explain to someone else without stumbling.

If you're listening and thinking, “Okay, but I don't really know who I help yet,” that's normal. Early on, you can be general while you get your footing. You can say something like: I'm working with women who want to turn their experience into a service they can offer. Simple. It doesn't need to be complicated.

You don't have to lock yourself into a niche. I believe you are the niche. You just need a clear starting point so you can start practicing being visible.

And here's why that matters. Visibility isn't something you either have or you don't have. It is a skill. You practice it, you get better at it, you get more comfortable with it.

And because it's a skill, you don't need to go from zero to spotlight overnight. Small reps count.

Small reps also solve one of the biggest problems I see when people start putting themselves out there. I call it the three dot problem.

You know when you're texting with someone and you see the three dots like they're typing? That little moment where you're waiting to see what they're going to say? That's what happens when you're vague about what you do.

People see you doing something, but they can't really tell what it is. You post about starting a new chapter… three dots. You mention you're starting a new project… three dots. You say you're excited about something new… three dots.

And the problem is people don't always lean in. They might scroll past—not because they don't care, but because they don't understand what to do with it.

Clarity removes the three dots. Clarity turns “I'm starting something” into “I help X do X.” Now people can respond. They can connect you to a real need.

Once you remove the three dots, visibility starts looking a lot less dramatic. It looks like being findable in the places you already hang out. It looks like making it easy for people in your world to know what you're doing. And it looks like repeating your message in a calm, consistent way.

It can look like updating your social bios so it actually says what you do. Posting once a week instead of daily. Sharing a story about a problem you solved. Mentioning what you do when someone asks how work is going. Saying it clearly at a networking event. Or even putting it in your email signature.

This is not about turning your life into content. It's about making it easier for people to connect the dots.

An easy way to keep this from feeling overwhelming is to think in two buckets.

One bucket is what people can find even when you're not actively talking: your bio, your profile, your email signature, maybe your LinkedIn headline, or a simple web page or pinned post with a clear way to contact you.

The other bucket is what happens when you do show up and communicate: a post, a short video, a comment in a group or forum, a conversation you start on Threads, maybe a quick email to your list.

You need both eventually, but you don't need both perfectly right now. If you're early, the easiest win is the first bucket—the passive stuff. It's low pressure and high impact because you can fix it once and it keeps working for you.

This is where I want you to look at your bio or how you describe what you do and ask one question: If someone read this, would they be able to immediately understand what I do?

For example, if your bio says “helping women step into their next chapter,” that sounds nice. It just doesn't really tell me what you actually do.

A clearer version would sound more like: “I help women turn their experience into a simple offer they can sell.” You don't have to use those exact words. The point is that someone reading it immediately understands what you do.

And if you don't want to mention business yet, you can still be clear. If you help with organization, say that. If you help with travel budgeting, say that. If you help with career transitions or finding jobs, say that. Normal language works.

Once your passive stuff is clear, active visibility gets easier because you're not starting from scratch every time.

The part that makes people tense is they think active visibility means posting constantly—and it doesn't. Active visibility early on is repeating your message consistently enough that people will remember it.

Consistency does not require high frequency. It does require repetition over time, so you get to choose a pace that feels doable for you.

You can do one post a week. One video every two weeks. One email a month. One conversation a week. You pick the pace.

The goal is that you keep showing up, because if you show up once and then disappear for two months, you'll feel like you're starting over every time—and that is exhausting.

A slower pace you can maintain is better than an intense burst that's going to burn you out.

This is exactly why I'm big on finding a pace you can actually stick with. For example, I don't want to do constant filming and photo shoots. I don't have time, and honestly, I don't enjoy it most of the time.

But a weekly podcast requires a lot of my time too. However, I love it. I feel comfortable talking while not being filmed. I don't mind the time it takes to pick my topics, do the writing, the editing. I'm excited to work on the next episode.

That's what you're looking for: the version of visibility that fits your life and your personality and that you can stay consistent with.

Another thing that really helps is not putting pressure on yourself to come up with endless content ideas. You don't need a million topics, you just need a few simple categories you can repeat.

You could talk about a problem you help with: a lot of people struggle with ___. Maybe give a simple tip. Or tell a quick story: this happened this week and it reminded me of ___.

That's it. People don't need you to be endlessly original. They need you to be useful and consistent.

And repeating yourself is not a crime. People miss things. People forget things. People need to hear something more than once.

When you feel like you're repeating yourself, you probably are—and that's fine. The difference is you want to repeat the message through different examples, not repeat the same phrases.

Now, I know the face-on-camera piece is a whole thing for a lot of women. You do not have to show your face constantly to be visible. You can do audio. You can do text. You can do carousel posts. You can do a simple graphic, a photo with a caption.

At the same time, it’s worth saying this out loud: sometimes the camera is uncomfortable for reasons that have nothing to do with your ability.

During my career, I have had to stand up in front of people and teach and lecture and sometimes deliver news they didn't want to hear. That never scared me. I felt comfortable because I was in a room of people, a live audience.

But put the camera in front of me and I instantly start worrying about how I look. Am I making strange faces? I feel uncomfortable. I am still working on that to this day.

But the more I do it, the easier it's becoming. I don't dread it quite as much. And that's the point. If camera work is part of your visibility plan, you don't have to love it immediately. You just need a few reps so it starts feeling normal.

And if you decide video is not your thing, you can still be visible. You just want to choose intentionally, not hide.

No matter what your style is, the goal stays the same at the beginning. You're trying to create conversations.

Followers and likes and viral moments are wonderful, but what you need now are conversations.

If you're visible enough that people start asking questions, you're doing it right. If you're visible enough that someone says, “Wait, tell me more about that,” you're doing it right. And if you're visible enough that someone refers a friend to you, you're doing it right.

We're aiming for traction, not fame.

So let's keep this simple. Here's your rep for this week.

Step one: write your sentence. I help ___ with ___ so they can ___.
Step two: choose one place to use it—your bio, your LinkedIn headline, your email signature, a post, or a message to someone you know.
Step three: do it once.

That's the rep.

If you want a second rep, here it is: tell one person what you're working on in a normal way. Not a dramatic announcement. Not a big explanation.

Just something like:
“I've been working on something new. I'm helping women with ___.”
“I'm starting to take on a few clients for ___.”
“I'm testing an idea where I help people with ___.”

Short. Calm. Normal.

This is how visibility gets easier. It becomes something you can say without your heart racing and without hesitation.

And if you do that, you might feel two things at the same time: a little proud (you did it, as you should) and a little nervous about what people might think.

Some people will judge you. Some people won't understand. Some people might make it about them. Some people will surprise you in the best way.

You might have heard people online say things like: “You haven't made it until you start getting hate comments.” I get what they're trying to do. They're trying to normalize the fact that you cannot please everyone, and that part is true.

But that message can also be unhelpful when you're just getting started, because it makes it sound like hate is a requirement, like it's a rite of passage and you should expect people to come for you the minute you post something.

Most of the time, that's not the case.

Most of the time, what does happen is much more normal: a few people will ignore it, a few people will quietly watch, a few people will be supportive. And yes, you might get a weird comment here and there, but hate's not the goal and it's not proof that you're doing something right.

Here's the more practical truth: if you stay quiet, people can still judge you. They might label you as playing it safe, or not following through, or talking about things but not doing anything.

If you do something, people can judge you for changing, for trying something new, for being brave enough to put yourself out there.

You cannot control opinions. You can only control actions.

And something else that helps is remembering where opinions usually come from. A lot of the loud opinions come from one of three places: people who are not your audience and were never going to buy from you anyway; people who are uncomfortable watching someone else take a risk; and people who wish they would do it too, but they're not quite ready—so it comes out sideways.

Meanwhile, the people you actually want to help are not sitting there preparing a hate comment. They're busy. They're overwhelmed. They're looking for someone who can make their life easier. They just need to be able to find you.

So yes, protect your peace. Use the mute button. Use the block button. You do not have to tolerate nonsense.

But don't let the possibility of judgment stop you from taking real steps—especially if you're building something because you want more options, more freedom, more income, more purpose.

Also, most people aren't thinking about you as much as you think they are. They're thinking about themselves. That's not rude. It's just human.

So do the rep anyway.

That is visibility—the normal person version.

You don't need to be everywhere. You don't need to post every day. You don't need to turn into a content creator. You need clarity about what you do and a few small reps so people can connect the dots.

In the next episode, we're going to talk about where to show up, so you're not just talking into the void—because visibility is easier when you're in the right rooms and you're talking to people who actually care.

For now: pick your one rep, update one line, use one sentence, have one conversation.

Thanks for hanging out with me today, and I'll talk to you in the next episode.

You don't need to be everywhere. You need a flow. Today I'm walking you through the content cascade. One strong piece of content and a simple path that makes marketing manageable. Today we're talking about one of the most common questions I hear, especially from women who are already juggling a hundred things. Where should I show up online, and how do I keep up without burning out? Because the online space will make you feel like you need to be on YouTube, Instagram, TikTok threads, Facebook, LinkedIn, Pinterest. Maybe start a podcast or a blog. Do email. Perhaps you should do a webinar or create a challenge. Or maybe do interpretive dance in your stories.

It's a lot.

So, if marketing is felt overwhelming, I know it certainly has for me. We're going to walk through a simple framework to help you, because it's not that you're inconsistent or lazy, or that you just need to want it more. Most of the time, overwhelm is a systems problem, not a motivation problem. I'm going to give you a simple system you can use to decide where to show up, what to create, and how to repurpose it without feeling like content creation has become your second job. I call it the content cascade. It's basically how to start with one strong piece of content and let it trickle down into the shorter stuff without driving yourself crazy. And a quick heads up, there's a link in the show notes where you can download a simple visual slide deck that goes along with this. I think it'll make it easier to follow when you can see how it's laid out.

All right, here's why this matters. Before you pick platforms, start with your audience. Ask yourself, where are they already hanging out? How do they prefer to learn? Do they like video? Do they like to listen? Maybe they prefer reading or skimming. Do they want quick tips or deeper teaching? Because the goal isn't to be everywhere. The goal is to be consistent in the places that matter for your people and that you can sustain.

If you try to show up everywhere, you'll be less likely to stick with it. If you show up in the right places consistently, you'll build trust. So start with your people. Then we map the flow.

Here we go. One strong piece of anchor content at the top, and then everything else flows from it. So think of a hierarchy. I'm going to give you the layers first and then we'll break them down individually. Layer one is anchor content. This is your long form. Layer two is a bridge. Think search and evergreen content. Layer three are amplifiers. This is one or two short form platforms. Then we have nurture and conversion. This is email and your sales page leading to your offers. We have relationship boosters. This is direct messaging automations voice notes. And finally layer six is sell and deliver. Pick the simplest platform that fits what you're selling. You don't need every layer to start. You just need a simple path that makes sense.

At that point, it leads into anchor content long form. Let's start at the top. Anchor content is where you teach. You build trust and you show how you think. Some examples are YouTube, a podcast, a blog or vlog. Substack or some sort of newsletter style writing. This is your big rock. It's where you can actually explain something. People can binge you, learn from you, and start trusting you.

And a quick note on YouTube. YouTube functions like a search engine. Some people even call it the number two search engine just behind Google. Either way, it's a discovery machine, which is great news if you don't want to be trapped in that hamster wheel of a daily posting. Long form gives you depth and depth builds authority. So your first job is to pick one anchor, not YouTube and a podcast and a blog and Substack. Just pick one.

So if you love talking, a podcast will be great for you. Prefer teaching on camera? Go with YouTube. If you prefer writing, start a blog or Substack. And if you like showing your process, a vlog will be perfect. One. Anchor.

The next layer is discovery. This is how people find you without you having to constantly chase attention. And Pinterest is the underrated powerhouse here. Pinterest is not social, not in the way that Instagram or Facebook are social. Pinterest is a visual search engine, meaning people go to Pinterest looking for ideas and solutions, and your content can keep working for you for months or even years on this platform.

So Pinterest can act as a bridge between your long form content and the rest of your system. Your YouTube video can become a pin, a podcast episode can become a pin, a blog post can become a pin. Your free checklist can become a pin. Pinterest helps the right people find the right thing at the right time.

And if you're thinking, oh, I don't want to add one more platform. Here's the difference. Pinterest isn't a place you have to hang out. Pinterest is a place that you put your content and it does the work for you. It's like setting up signposts that keep pointing people back to you over and over again.

Now we get to what most people think. Marketing is short form and quick clarity here, because people mix this up all the time. Branding is the vibe. It's the feeling people get when they land on your page. It's your voice, your message, your style, your visuals, and the energy you bring.

Marketing is the plan. It's how you show up consistently, where you show up, what you say and how you guide people toward your offer. So today we're not doing a full brand makeover. We're talking practical marketing. Short form visibility that supports your bigger system. This is where you show up in bite sized ways and build familiarity.

This can be Instagram, Facebook threads, TikTok, LinkedIn or YouTube shorts, even a live shopping platform like whatnot. If live selling is actually your business model. But here's the rule pick one or two. That's it. Because when you're overwhelmed, the solution is not more platforms. It's the ability to make fewer decisions. Short form is not where you should be inventing brand new ideas daily. Short form is where you pull highlights from your anchor content. Which brings us to the part everyone needs. Repurposing.

So let's take a look at the content cascade repurposing formula. You're going to create one long form piece, then chunk it into short form and supporting content. So let's say you record one podcast episode or a YouTube video from that one piece. You can pull five short clips, a takeaway post, an email, and two or three Pinterest pins. That's one idea turned into a full week of content. And you're not forcing yourself to be creative every day. You're being strategic once.

Now, if you're thinking, okay, but how do I find those clips? You review your long form content and pick out sections that include tips, a potential quote, something you want your audience to focus on and remember. Those moments become your clips. Aand notice what we're not doing, we're not creating five separate topics for five platforms. We're taking one topic and packaging it five ways. That's the cascade.  Because visibility without a next step is a waste of effort.

Now we have to talk about email, because email is the piece that makes all of this worth it. Where social helps people find you, email helps people trust you. Once someone joins your list, you can nurture them consistently without fighting an algorithm. You can teach them, share stories, build that like, know and trust factor and invite them into your world and your offers when it makes sense.

Now email can also be long form. Think of a weekly newsletter, a thoughtful email that teaches and guides. Those are all long form content. And here's the simplest model, send nurture emails and send offer emails. Your nurture email is value plus your personality. Your offer email is an invitation and the next step. And if you rotate those, you'll be able to build trust and sell without needing to go viral. And your short form content should point to something: your email list, your sales page, a checkout page to your offers, to your next step. Because visibility matters.

Relationship boosters aren't more platforms. These are actually tools that help you turn attention into conversions. So think of direct messages, a simple Many Chat workflow that automates things for you. Voice notes you can use the voice memo recorder on your phone or a tool like Voxer. This is where a lot of conversions actually happen, especially for service offers, coaching, consulting, or higher touch programs. Because sometimes people don't need another post. What they really need is a small moment of connection, a quick voice note, a thoughtful reply, a simple “hey, I saw your message. Here's what I recommend.” That builds trust fast.

Now we're going to talk lightly, not a deep dive about where you sell and deliver what you're offering. There are lightweight options, and then there are full course platform options.

Lightweight options include places like Etsy, which is fantastic if you sell templates, worksheets, printables, jewelry, art, or a physical product because people are already on Etsy searching with buying intent.

Then there's Stan Store. This is a simple storefront that works great if you're selling digital products or bookings from your social audience.

Skool is a community hub with learning already built in, and it's great for memberships and programs.

Then you have more robust platforms like Kajabi, Thinkific, and Teachable. Now these are created with the course creator in mind, but they can also be amazing. They do come with more features, more moving parts, and the price point can get quite high depending on what you decide to go with.

And don't forget about your email platform. Many email platforms have a built in way to sell. Also, your website may have a built-in way to sell. For example, I use Flodesk for email and it has a great checkout feature. I also have a Squarespace website that offers a way to sell as well, so make sure you're also checking the platforms and tools that you already have.

So here's the rule pick based on what you're selling right now, not what you think you should build someday. Start simple. Prove the offer, then upgrade later if you need to. Consistency doesn't come from doing the most. Consistency comes from doing what you can repeat. And momentum beats burnout every time.

All right, so here's what I want you to take from this. You don't need to be everywhere. You don't need to chase every trend. And you definitely don't need to turn your life into a content factory just to prove you're consistent. What you do need is a simple flow that matches your capacity, and a platform choice that makes sense for how you like to communicate. That's why the content cascade works. It gives you a simple way to start with one strong piece and let everything else flow from it so your marketing feels steady, not stressful. And again, if it helps to see it laid out visually, please don't forget to grab the free slide deck linked in the show notes. I think it'll make it a lot easier to follow along and understand how to use it.

Thanks so much for hanging out with me today. If you found this episode helpful, please follow the show and share it with anyone else you think could benefit from it. I'll see you next week.

Did you actually choose the way your life was supposed to go, or did it kind of just get handed to you?

College job. Stay. Be responsible. Be practical. Support the people around you and don't want too much. Sound familiar? That's what we're going to get into today.

We're going to talk about the rule book, not the one you wrote. The one that got laid out for you before you were old enough to really know what you wanted, and what happens when you finally look up one day and realize the life you've been building. It just doesn't quite match the person you've actually become.

Most of us didn't choose our starting point. We inherited it, and it showed up in different ways depending on where you came from.

For some, it was the straight and narrow. Go to school, get a degree, get a job, stay with that job. Work your way up and retire from it. Stability, security. Don't rock the boat. That was the whole thing.

For others, it looked completely different. It was. Be a good partner. Be a good mother. Hold everything together. Make sure everyone else is okay. Your wants, your ideas, your ambitions, those come after if there's time.

And then there were the women who had something they really wanted to do. Something creative, artistic, unconventional, something that felt like theirs and got quietly talked out of it. Be practical. That's not realistic. You can explore that later in life, maybe once everything else is sorted.

Or maybe it was even quieter than that. Just a low hum in the background. You have a good life. Stop wanting more. Just be grateful and don't be difficult.

These things weren't always said out loud. Sometimes they were just the air in the room assumptions so baked in that nobody thought to question them.

And underneath all of it, for women especially, there was almost always this undercurrent. Be agreeable, be supportive. Don't take up too much space. And whatever you do, don't want too much.

Most of the people who handed us these rules, they meant well. Our parents, teachers, people who loved us. They gave us the plan that worked for them or the one they wished they'd had. But that roadmap was drawn for a different time, a different economy, and a much more narrow idea of what a woman's life could actually look like. Now a lot of us followed it.

We did what we were supposed to do. We checked the boxes, we showed up, and we still ended up somewhere that doesn't quite fit.

That's not failure. That's just what happens when you spend years living by someone else's idea of what your life should be.

So what does it feel like when you stay in the playbook longer than it's working. When you keep trying to make it fit. Even after it stopped making sense.

It feels like being unappreciated. Like anxiety you can't quite put your finger on. Being emotionally drained in a way that a good night's sleep doesn't fix. It feels like you're just going through the motions. Showing up every day for something that used to feel like enough. And now it just feels hollow.

And a lot of us take those feelings and turn them inward. We decide something must be wrong with us. We tell ourselves we're being ungrateful, or we just need to push through, or that everyone feels this way. Sometimes we minimize it and we keep going.

But those feelings aren't character flaws. They're signals. They're your whole self telling you that you've outgrown where you are. The woman who followed all those rules and still feels like something is missing isn't broken. She's just outgrown the container she was put in. There's a difference.

And there's grief in all of this, too. Something we don't really talk about enough.

When you start to admit that the plan isn't working, there's a real loss there. You're not just letting go of a situation. Sometimes you're letting go of an identity. A story you told yourself about who you were going to be, the version of your life you thought you were moving toward.

That's real. And it's okay to feel it, but staying stuck in a situation that no longer fits isn't loyalty. It's not honoring the people who gave it to you. It's just staying. And that has its own cost.

For me, by the time I was in my early forties, I knew something had to change. And it wasn't that I wanted to throw away everything I'd built or pretend my experience didn't matter. I just didn't want to use it inside a structure that no longer worked for me.

No more boss. No more someone else's environment, someone else's terms. I wanted some freedom and flexibility. I wanted to actually own what I was building, and it took a big nudge from someone I trusted who was actually my boss at the time to make that move.

But going out on my own ended up being the biggest and best decision I've ever made. Not because it's easy or perfect, but because for the first time in my life, what I was building was actually mine.

So let's talk about who's actually standing here right now. Whoever you are, and whatever your version of that rule book looked like, the woman on the other side of all of it has something the twenty five year old version of her absolutely did not have… decades of real experience, hard won perspective, a much clearer sense of what she's good at, what she can't stand, and what she's done carrying that was never really hers to begin with.

She doesn't owe anyone an apology for not being what they expected. Not her parents, not her younger self, not her employer, her partner, her community, or anyone else who had an opinion about how her life was supposed to go.

And this is true no matter which version of the story you've been living, whether you spent years in a job that paid well and slowly drained you, whether you poured yourself into raising your family and taking care of everyone else and you're ready, actually ready to do something for yourself now, or you're that creative who's been putting what she really wanted to do off for so long that it barely feels real anymore.

Whether you never quite fit any of the options that were laid out for you, and you're still figuring out what yours actually looks like. Every single one of those women is sitting on something worth building from. It might be professional expertise, or it might be years of life experience most people haven't accumulated yet.

It might be a creative skill that got shelved for too long. It might just be that you've spent decades figuring out how people work, what they need, and how to actually help them. That's not nothing. That's everything.

And here's the part that is terribly underrated, in my opinion. You know what you don't want. The twenty five year old you didn't know that she was still figuring it out. Still trying to prove herself. Still running on someone else's timeline.

The clarity you have now, she didn't have access to that yet. So the question isn't, how do you get back on track? The track has changed.

The real question is, what does the version of you who's actually here want to do with all of it? Once that lands, the next question is practical. Okay, so what now?

This is not about blowing up your life, or dramatic gestures, or burning everything down and starting from scratch. It's about deciding, maybe for the first time that you get to write this part.

The old playbook said, stay steady, keep your head down. Don't create waves. And honestly, that served a purpose for a while in a different time. But women right now are doing things that playbook never accounted for.

We're building businesses from expertise spent decades accumulating, turning what they know into courses, coaching, creative work, services and products. Real things they actually own. Teaching what they know on their own terms and their own voice without asking anyone's permission.

And it's not just the career women doing this. It's the woman who spent twenty years at home and is now building something from everything she learned about managing people, households, relationships, and chaos.

It's that creative woman who finally decided her work is worth something. It's the woman who maybe never had a tidy professional title, but has more real world knowledge than most people in any room she walks into.

The thing they have in common is they stopped treating what they know as just background, as just history, as just their life.

They started treating it as the thing they build from because that's what it is. What you know, what you've lived and who you become in the process. That's the asset.

And there are real ways to take that and shape it into something you can teach and sell. Whether you want to think it through with someone or have help actually building it, which is what we do, but it starts with deciding that what you've got is worth something, because it is.

Nobody gets to hand you the life they imagined for you and call it yours. That's just not how it works. The rule book has a starting point. That's all it was ever supposed to be.

The women doing the most interesting things right now. They're not the ones who stuck faithfully to someone else's script. They're the ones who finally got honest about what they actually wanted and started building from there.

So sit with this one. If nobody was watching, if you didn't have to explain it or justify it or make it make sense to anyone, what would you actually be building right now?

That answer's worth something. Don't brush past it.

Thanks for hanging out with me today. If something in this episode stirred something up, if you're sitting with that question or there's something you've been carrying around that you're finally ready to look at, send me an email. The address is in the show notes. I love hearing what's on your mind and what you're considering building.

See you next week.

You've got an idea you keep coming back to. You've thought about it, talked yourself out of it, and probably watch someone else do something close enough to make you think. Yeah, I had that idea too. So, what do you actually do with it?

You're scrolling or you're in the shower or driving, or you're sitting in a meeting that has nothing to do with your real life, and something shows up in your mind, not for the first time. It keeps showing up and you keep filing it away, telling yourself you'll come back to it when things settle down.

Then one day you see someone else doing something close enough to what you imagined, and you feel that little sting. Not because they stole anything. Just because, you know you had a similar thought and didn't act on it.

I have a really good friend and the two of us are constantly doing this to each other. We'll be talking and one of us will say, okay, hear me out. And suddenly we're an hour deep into brainstorming something we're absolutely convinced the world needs. Sometimes it's a product, sometimes it's a course. Lately, it's been apps. We get genuinely excited. We riff on it. We build it out in our heads. And then life happens. We get busy. We forget about it.

And then a few months later, something new drops. A product, a tool, an app, and we're on the phone with each other. Like, are you kidding me? That was our idea.

Now, to be fair, we don't actually know if our version would have worked. That's kind of the point. We never found out. And there's something about that, about leaving your own thinking unexplored for so long that someone else gets there first, that has a way of staying with you. So that's where we're starting today.

And before we go any further, let's talk about what this episode is not about. It's not about hustle. It's not about dropping everything and launching something by Friday. And it's definitely not another pep talk telling you to just bet on yourself. This is about something quieter, something more useful. Figuring out what to actually do with the thing that keeps showing up in your mind. Whether that leads somewhere big, somewhere small, or maybe nowhere at all. All of those are valid outcomes. So, if you've been carrying an idea around for a while, wondering what it is or whether it's worth anything, stay with me. That's exactly what we're going to get into.

One reason these things feel heavier than they need to is because they stay undefined for too long. You've got something that sounds interesting, maybe even exciting, or potentially profitable. But if you never move past, “I have this thing I keep thinking about”, it starts taking up more space than it deserves. It just sits there. You revisit it when things get quiet. You tell yourself you'll come back to it when you have time. And because you never actually make a decision about it, it stays in this weird kind of unfinished state, which after a while gets exhausting.

Here's what I think is worth noticing. Sometimes the most helpful thing you can do isn't to come up with something better. It's simply to decide what this is, what it isn't, and whether it deserves any more of your time. Because not everything deserves a Ted talk and a Canva template.

Some concepts are solid, some need work, some are just shitty. And being honest about that early saves you a lot of energy and a lot of second guessing.

Before we talk about what to do with your idea, let's talk about why it's still just sitting there. Because most of the time, it's not that we don't have viable ideas, it's that a few very specific things get in the way.

The first one is waiting to feel ready. There's this belief that you need more information, more credentials, more clarity before you can take a real look at what you're sitting on. But readiness doesn't usually show up before you start. It shows up during.

The second one is fear of the reaction. What will people think? Are people not going to understand it? What if I talk about it and then don't follow through? That social pressure is real, especially for women who've spent years being the reliable, steady one. Saying I'm thinking about doing something new can feel surprisingly vulnerable.

And the third one is not knowing what the concept even is yet it's still undefined. It doesn't have a name or a form, and we're often taught that we need to have the whole thing figured out before we can move on it. That's backwards. You figure it out by moving on it. None of these things mean your concept isn't worth exploring. They just mean you're human. And now that we've named them, we can set them aside and get to work.

So, here's the shift that makes everything more productive. Instead of asking, is this a good idea? Try asking, what could this become? That question opens things up because we often get stuck trying to identify the one perfect version before taking any action. That's just not how it works.

A concept can take lots of shapes. Something you imagined as a course might make more sense as a workshop. What you thought needed to be a full business might actually work better as a small offer. A product might be a service. Something that feels too broad, might have one strong piece that could stand on its own. And sometimes the opposite is true. You look more closely and realize there's not enough underneath it. You liked the thought of it, the possibility of it. But once you really examine it, there's nothing there to build on. That's not failure, that's information, and it frees you up to focus on something that is worthwhile.

So, the real question isn't, is this good? It's more like, does this feel like something you teach or make or write or host or build? Or does it sound better in theory than it does in practice? That's a far more productive starting point.

So, when you stop asking, is this a good concept and start asking, what shape does this want to take something shifts. It stops feeling like a test you have to pass and starts feeling like a conversation you're having with the idea itself. And depending on which form you hold it up against, you'll get different information back.

A service-based idea asks different things of you than a book. A workshop is a different commitment than a long-term product. A side gig has a different shape than a full business. So when you start matching your thinking to a possible form, you give yourself something concrete to respond to.

You might realize the whole thing is smaller than you thought, which might be a relief. You might find it has more potential than you gave it credit for. Or you might discover you were trying to force it into the wrong container entirely. Not every unclear concept is a bad one. Sometimes it just needs a better fit.

Now here's where people start to spin out. Once you see that, your idea could become several different things. It's very tempting to try and hold all of them at once, and suddenly you're right back to overwhelm, just with more options and more noise in your head.

So, here's the move. Don't try to explore every version. Pick the one that feels most worth looking at first and start there. And if you're not sure which version to start with, just ask yourself a couple of honest questions. Does thinking about this particular version give you energy, or does it already feel like a chore? And is there someone out there who could benefit from this even in an early, imperfect form?

Those two questions alone can cut through a lot of the noise. Not forever. It's not a final answer. It's just a place to begin. Because clarity doesn't usually come from thinking harder. It comes from moving. Once you stop trying to solve the whole thing and start testing one version of it. You finally have something real to react to. You can feel whether it's getting stronger or starting to fall apart. Whether it was the right direction or just one worth ruling out. Either way, you've learned something and that's more than you had before.

So, if something's been living in the back of your mind, stop asking it to prove itself in the abstract. Ask what it could actually become. Pick a form, test one version and give yourself permission to find out. Including finding out it's not the right direction after all. You don't need another sign that it's worth pursuing. You need a container that shows you what it actually is. That's where the next step shows itself.

Thanks for hanging out with me today. I love getting into this stuff with you. Make sure you follow the show so you don't miss what's next, and I'll see you next time.

What if your experience could become your retirement plan? What if everything you've learned could replace the job that's draining you? What if the life you've lived could become your own business?

Scratch the what ifs. This is already happening for women just like you. And today, we're talking about how.

Hey. Welcome back. I want to ask you something before we dive in. What if the thing you've spent your life doing, not just your job, but the thing you're passionate about, the thing you've lived through and figured out? What if that's worth something? Not just emotionally. Financially. What if your experience isn't just your past? What if it's actually your retirement plan?

Some of you have had careers. Some of you have stayed home. Some of you have done both. Often at the same time. But somewhere along the way, you became really good at something. You know things. You've lived things. And there are people out there who would pay to learn from you. They just haven't found you yet.

So what is actually going on? Because a lot of you are feeling something and maybe just haven't quite found the words to describe it yet. You're good at what you do, whether that's a career you've built over decades, a passion you've poured yourself into, or a life that required you to figure out things most people never have to deal with. You know you're good, but something isn't filling you up the way it used to.

The job has gotten smaller even as your experience has gotten bigger. You're the one people come to when something goes sideways. You're the one who's seen it all before. Who quietly holds things together. And somehow that still doesn't show up in your paycheck, your title, or your schedule the way you thought it would by now.

And the world isn't making it easier. Companies are restructuring around AI. Layoffs are hitting people who did everything right. Small businesses are downsizing, and women over forty are getting squeezed from both ends. Too experienced for some roles not current enough for others. We covered a lot of this in episode one, and the data is truly eye opening. If you haven't listened yet, what that means financially is real. When a job disappears or a role quietly shrinks, it doesn't just affect today's paycheck. It affects your retirement. It affects what you thought the next decade was going to look like, and it hits women over forty harder than most, because the path back is a lot narrower than it used to be.

And maybe you're watching people around you. They might be younger people get recognized and compensated for things you've been doing for years. You don't begrudge them, but there's something in you that knows I've been doing this longer, deeper, and with more at stake. And I'm still waiting for it to pay off.

For some of you, it's not about work at all. It's a passion. Something you've spent years getting better at going deeper into. Not because anyone asked you to, but because it's yours. And somewhere along the way, you started wondering whether the thing that lights you up could also be the thing that actually pays you.

Then those doubts show up. We have this repeating loop playing in our heads, saying I'm too old to start something new. Nobody would pay me for what I know. Who am I to think I could even do something like that?

Trust me, you're not burnt out because you stopped caring. You're burnt out because you care deeply. And the container you're in is too small for what you've become.

Most of us were handed one model for how money works. You trade time for a paycheck. Someone else decides what that's worth. And you hope it's enough. And that it keeps coming. That model has a ceiling. And right now, with everything shifting the way it is, a lot of women are hitting that ceiling hard.

But here's something most of us never stop to question. We've been taught that experience and money go together in one very specific way. And that equation, it's actually pretty broken.

We've been taught that experience only counts if someone paid us for it. It came with a job title, a performance review, a salary. And if it doesn't fit that mold, if it happened at home, maybe in a volunteer role, or in the years you spent becoming an expert in something because you had to or because you loved it. We discount it. We call it a hobby. We call it just being a mom. We call it just something I do. That's not how value works. That's just how institutions work. And institutions are not the authority on what you're worth. Your experience counts all of it. Whether someone cut you a check for it or not.

Remember, you don't need to create something from scratch. You already have it. What you need is to package it.

People don't just buy information anymore. Let's face it, we can get information anywhere at any hour for free. What they actually pay for is someone who's been through it and can say, I get it. I've done this. Let me save you from the part that almost broke me. It's the transformation that makes the difference. And that person, that's you. That's what this show is all about. How to take what you already have and turn it into something real. Something that pays you.

Sometimes we hear something that sounds inspiring, sounds good, and then immediately go, okay, but that's not me. My situation is different. What I know isn't the kind of thing people pay for. So let me just take a second and show you what this actually looks like, because these women are all completely different. And that's exactly the point.

Take the woman who spent twenty five years as an HR director. When she got tired of doing it for someone else, she didn't go back to school. She didn't reinvent herself. She took exactly what she already knew how to navigate conflict, manage difficult people, hold an organization together, and started offering consulting calls to small business owners who were drowning in the same problems she'd solved a hundred times before. No website, no logo. Just her expertise and a calendar link. Now, she didn't replace her salary overnight, but she got her first paying clients fast because the knowledge was already there. The only thing that changed was who she was selling it to.

Then there's the woman who went through a brutal divorce at forty eight and rebuilt her finances, her confidence, and her identity from the ground up. When she came out the other side, Other women kept finding her, asking her how she did it, where she even started. She didn't have a credential in navigating divorce. What she had was a map that other women desperately needed. She turned that into a coaching program, something she could sell, deliver, and grow on her own terms.

And then there's the woman who spent a decade organizing her neighborhood, running fundraisers, building volunteer networks from nothing. No title, no corporate background, just ten years of showing up and making things happen. Nonprofits now pay her to come in and teach exactly that. What was once unpaid became a consulting practice.

Three completely different women with three completely different paths. The same shift underneath all of it. They stopped letting someone else put a price on what they already know.

And I'll add my own story in here. When I left my corporate work, I was fortunate to be able to replace my salary with my own clients. Not immediately, not without effort. But it happened. Then over time, I added more client work and kept building. The income didn't come from a new idea. It came from the exact same expertise I'd already been using for someone else for over twenty years. At that time, the difference was that I now owned that expertise.

So let's bring this back to you. Think about the thing you know so well. It feels completely obvious to you. The thing where someone is stuck and you already see the answer. Where do you do that? What is that space for you?

What problems do you solve at work, at home, in your community that other people find impossible or overwhelming? What have you figured out over the years that took you a long time to learn? And that someone out there is still in the middle of right now, because that person is looking for exactly what you already know, and they're willing to pay for it.

What's the thing you've done or lived or built that makes people say, you should really teach this? Those are not throw away comments. That's people telling you what you have is valuable, that they would pay for it if they knew where to find you.

You don't need one more year of experience. You don't need a new certification to prove what decades of living has already given you. You don't need to wait until you feel ready, because that feeling doesn't show up before you start. It shows up during whatever just came to mind. That's where it all starts.

Building something from your expertise isn't just a passion project, it's a financial strategy. And right now, with the job market shifting the way it is, AI changing what companies need, layoffs, hitting people who did everything right, small businesses pulling back. It might be one of the most important financial decisions you make when you build something you own.

The income doesn't disappear when a company restructures or a role gets eliminated, you're not at the mercy of someone else's budget. You're not waiting on a performance review to tell you what you're worth. You set the rate. You decide, the hours. You build something that belongs to you and that has real value to your financial future, including retirement.

It doesn't have to replace everything overnight. Some women start part time while they're still in their jobs. Others use it to supplement what they're already making. Some build it slowly until it's strong enough to stand on its own. There's no one right pace. The point is that every step forward is equity you're putting in your own pocket instead of someone else's.

Your experience can become your retirement plan. It can replace the job that no longer makes you happy. It can become your own business or side gig built around your actual life. That's not something reserved for other people. It's available to you. The first step is simple get clear on what you know, who needs it and what it could look like as an offer. That's what we dig into together here, episode by episode. You can also learn more about this on our website. It's linked in the show notes. You don't have to figure it all out today. You just have to decide you're done leaving it on the table.

Thanks for hanging out with me today. If you know a woman who needs to hear this, please send it to her. And if you're not following the show yet, do so now so you don't miss what's coming. I'll see you next time.

Here's where most women get stuck, not in believing they have something worth sharing their past that they get stuck in the. But what do I actually make with that question? Do I write a book, start a podcast? Maybe build a course or offer coaching? Consult? Speak?

The options feel endless and none of them feel obvious. So, most women do the thing that feels safest. Nothing. They stay in the thinking about it stage and definitely waiting for one option to feel so clearly right that they can't ignore it anymore.

That moment doesn't usually come on its own, but clarity does come. And today we're going to work on it together. We're talking about how to look at what you already have, including things you might not even be counting as assets yet, and start seeing the specific products, services and offers it could become. Because the path from “I have something” to “I have something packaged” is shorter than you think and a lot more concrete than the online business world makes it look.

So let's get into it and start by naming something that doesn't get talked about enough in the build a business from your expertise conversation. Most of the advice out there is built for a very specific kind of person. Someone with a professional background, a job title, a LinkedIn profile full of credentials, and the assumption underneath all of it is that your expertise lives in your resume. That's not the only place. Expertise lives. Not even close.

Some of the most valuable knowledge a woman over forty carries has nothing to do with what she got paid to do. It has to do with what she's lived through, what she figured out the hard way. What she spent years navigating, surviving, learning, and eventually mastering. Not because someone handed her a curriculum, but because life required it of her.

The woman, who spent a decade managing a child's serious medical condition and became an expert in how to advocate inside a healthcare system that wasn't built to help her.

Or the woman who rebuilt her financial life in her fifties and now understands things about money, credit, and starting over that no financial planner ever taught her.

The woman who moved through a grief so profound it changed how she understands everything and now has a kind of wisdom about loss that other people desperately need.

None of these women have a degree in what they know. All of them have something packageable. So before we get into the mechanics of matching knowledge to product type, I want to make sure we’re starting from the right place. What you've lived, what you've figured out, what you've survived, all of that counts. That's what we're working with today.

Now let's talk about what you actually have to work with, because this is where most people underestimate themselves. When women think about packaging their knowledge, they usually think about it in terms of what they know in their head, their expertise, their experience, their ideas. And that's real. But there's another layer that's just as valuable and almost always overlooked. The content you've already created.

Content doesn't have to be something you made intentionally with an audience in mind. Content is anything you've produced that captures your thinking, a process, your knowledge, or your story. And most women have more of it than they realize.

Think about what that actually looks like. Emails you've written, maybe to a friend going through something that you've already gone through, where you were able to lay out exactly what to do and in what order. Presentations you gave at work or at your kid's school, or a church or community organization. Notes from conversations where you walked someone through a process you know well. A journal you kept, post-it notes that are all over the refrigerator that are collecting dust. Videos you may have recorded, or frameworks and checklists you built for yourself because you needed them and they didn't exist at the time. Things you've made for clients, employers for volunteer work that are just sitting in a folder somewhere. That's all content and content is the raw material that eventually becomes a product. So the question isn't, what do I need to create? The question is what do I already have and what shape should it take?

Those are very different questions with very different energy behind them. And the second one is where we're starting. This is the part that I think is genuinely under explained in most business building conversations. So I want to spend some real time here. Different types of knowledge map to different types of offers. And once you start seeing those patterns, a lot of the confusion about what should I build starts to clear up.

The first type is process knowledge. This is when you know how to walk someone through something in a specific sequence. There's a beginning, a middle, and an end. And if someone follows the steps, they get a result. This type of knowledge is great for a course. It's workshop material. It could be a guide or maybe a playbook. The key marker is that it's sequential. You do this, then this, then this. If your knowledge has that shape, you probably have a course or a workshop in you.

The second type is judgement knowledge. This is the kind that comes from years of experience where you can look at someone's situation, read it quickly and know what they need to do. You're not teaching a curriculum. You're applying your brain to their specific problem in real time. That's consulting. That's coaching. People are paying for your read on their situation, not a step-by-step process. A lot of women undervalue this type because it doesn't feel like a product, but it absolutely is one.

The third type is accumulated knowledge. This is what happens when you've spent years gathering information, resources, frameworks, and recommendations on a specific topic. You know what works and what doesn't. You know the landscape. You know what questions to ask and where to find the answers. This could become a guide, a membership, a resource library, or a curated toolkit of some sort, something people come back to and reference over time, not just consume once.

The fourth type is transformation knowledge. This is your story, specifically the version of your story where you went through something difficult, found your way through it, and came out knowing things you didn't know before. This is speaking material. It can anchor a workshop or a program. It can be the foundation of a book, and it's often the most compelling thing a woman has and the things she's most likely to discount because it feels personal.

Most women have more than one of these. You might have a process and a story. You might have accumulated knowledge and judgment. So the question isn't which one you have, it's which one to lead with. And that depends on what your audience needs most and what feels most natural to deliver.

There's a step in this process that almost everyone skips, and skipping it costs people a lot of time and energy. Taking stock of what you actually have before you decide what to build. Most women already have more starting material than they think, and a lot of it isn't just sitting in their head, it's somewhere they've forgotten to look. A folder they haven't opened in two years. Notes from something they've lived through and documented without realizing they were creating something. Something they built for someone else that solved a real problem and then just stayed there. The inventory step is what brings all of that back into view. And it's not complicated, it's just intentional. You sit down and you actually list what you have, what you've written, formally or informally, what you've taught in any setting, paid or unpaid.

What do people come to you for repeatedly without you advertising it? What have you created for others that's just sitting somewhere? What do you know how to do that you've never written down? Because it lives so naturally in your head that you forget other people don't have it.

For women who are drawing on lived experience rather than a professional background, this inventory looks a little different, but it's just as rich. What did you document during the hard thing you went through? Who have you helped informally? The friends who called you. The people in your community who came to you for guidance. What do you wish had existed when you were in the middle of it? What would you tell someone who is where you were five or ten years ago? The answers to those questions are your inventory. And most women, when they actually do this exercise are surprised by how much is there.

The goal of the inventory isn't to overwhelm yourself with options. It's to get clear on what you're actually working with before you make a decision about what to build. Because when you can see what you have, then the right starting point usually becomes a lot more obvious. And this is exactly the reason that I just built the Package What You Know free mini course. And I want to tell you what's actually in it because I think it's going to make you want to go take it right now.

Let someone walks you through real examples of different types of experience and knowledge and what each of them can become, not hypotheticals. Actual examples of the way knowledge maps to product type so you can start seeing your own through that lens. Lesson two is interactive. You get to choose your own overarching topic and drill down into it, revealing the specific kinds of products and offers it could generate with real client examples along the way. So it stays grounded and concrete. This is the lesson that tends to make things click. And lesson three is the inventory exercise we just walked through built into an interactive format. So you can actually do it, not just think about doing it. You'll walk away with a real picture of what you're working with and how much further along you are than you thought.

Three lessons, twenty minutes free. The links in the show notes and also in our Instagram bio. So go take it this week. Do all three lessons, do the exercises and see what comes up for you. I think you're going to surprise yourself.

And if this episode helped shift something for you, share it with a woman who's been sitting in the I know I have something, but I don't know what to do with it place. She needs this conversation too. And follow the show so you don't miss what's coming. I'll see you in the next episode.

So much of the advice out there about building a business online assumes one thing that you're willing to film your life, chase an algorithm, and show up every single day in a way that feels more like a performance than actual work. And I want to talk about what happens when that assumption is just wrong for you, because there is another way and we're going to get into it today.

Can we just say it? The version of building a business online that gets the most airtime right now looks a specific way. It's video. It's social media and brand building. It's showing up every day and figuring out what the algorithm wants from you today versus what it wanted last week or maybe even fifteen minutes ago. It's your face, your life, your morning routine, your hot takes on camera, on repeat. And that in and of itself can become a full time job.

I'm not saying it doesn't work, because we all know it does for a lot of people. And some people are genuinely good at that. They enjoy it. It works for them. That's awesome. But somewhere along the line, it became the loudest way. The most visible way. And for a lot of people, it started to feel like the only way. It isn't.

And look, to be fair, if you want to build an audience quickly and who doesn't? Showing up consistently on video, especially reels, is probably one of the fastest ways to do it right now. If your content is engaging, the algorithm rewards it. The reach is real. That's not up for debate, but fast isn't the same as right for everyone, and a strategy that causes anxiety or one that requires you to become someone you're not isn't actually a strategy you're going to stick with.

But there are so many women who hear that advice and instantly feel something close to dread. Not because you don't have something valuable to offer, and not because you aren't willing to do the work that's required, but because that version of visibility just doesn't match who you are, how you think, or how you want to spend your time.

Instead, a lot of us just stall. I've definitely been there. Not only did I not have time to film all that content, I just didn't want to do it. I didn't want to talk about my family, what I had for dinner last night, or my dogs. And on top of that, you have to come up with hooks, scripts, figure out your location, your lighting, your audio. It's a whole production before you've said a single word about what you actually know. I wanted to be able to talk about what I bring to the table and how I help others. I wanted to connect in a different way, which is one of the reasons I started the show. There's a difference between not being ready and genuinely not wanting to build that way. And I think we need to talk about that difference more.

You start to wonder if maybe you're not cut out for this. You watch people post reels several times per day and think, is that really what it takes? It's not. That's one model. It's loud and it's everywhere right now. And it's convinced a lot of us that it's the only model. But there are other ways. And the women I'm thinking about when I record this show, women who have spent decades building real lived experiences, solving problems, doing the work. You deserve to know there's more than one way to build something.

You don't have to conform to performance culture to create something meaningful and make real money from it. You don't have to walk around with a selfie stick and reverse engineer what the algorithm is rewarding this week just to build a business around what you know. There are ways to be out in the world, to be findable, to be valuable to the people who need you, that don't require you to be on camera or on at all.

Now, some women hear "you don't have to do video" and instantly think that means giving up on growing an audience altogether. That's not what I'm saying at all. You can absolutely build an audience without ever putting your face on camera, and you don't have to be on every platform every single day to do it.

Let's talk about what that actually looks like, because I think once you see the full picture, it stops feeling like you're choosing between performance and invisibility. There's a lot of space between those two things.

Take Substack, for example. If you haven't looked at it yet, it's essentially a newsletter platform with a built in audience discovery feature. You write, people subscribe, they find you because Substack surfaces writers to readers who are already looking for content in your space. You're not chasing an algorithm or trying to game a feed. You show up when you have something worth saying, and the people who want to read it are right there. And a lot of writers and experts have built real pain subscriber bases on Substack without ever needing to be on Instagram.

Threads is another one worth knowing about. It's text based, no video required. You share ideas and respond to conversations, and you actually show up as a thinker rather than a performer. It moves differently than Instagram and TikTok. And for women who are naturally good with words and conversation, I think it can feel like a much more comfortable place to build presents.

Pinterest is something a lot of people underestimate as a business tool. It's not social media in the traditional sense. It's a search engine like Google or YouTube. People go there looking for answers, ideas, and resources. So if you're writing articles, publishing blogs, or any kind of written content, Pinterest can drive consistent traffic to that content for months or even years after you created it. You pin something once and it keeps working. No daily posting, no trending audio, no face required.

And then there's the hybrid approach, which honestly, is where a lot of sustainable businesses live. Maybe you do show up on social occasionally, but on your terms and your schedule you post when you have something to share, not because the algorithm is demanding it. You can also run ads to a specific audience, so you're not solely relying on organic reach to find the right people. You can build a Facebook group or an online community around a topic you know deeply and people come to you. None of that is daily performance. None of that requires you to be filming your life. It's intentional. It's manageable and it works.

There are also things you can do where you don't have to show your face at all and can still build meaningful reach. Think of all the faceless reels and TikTok accounts you see. They're built around an area of expertise. They mainly use text on screen, graphics or images, and voiceover. Or think about a YouTube channel where you don't appear on camera but share genuinely useful content in your field. These are great for like software tutorials. Or a podcast, which is probably the most underrated quiet builder out there where you're behind a mic. You don't have to be on camera and episodes keep finding new listeners long after you recorded them.

And beyond audience building entirely, there's real money in work that doesn't require visibility at all. Think about writing for other people and businesses like ghost writing. Designing resumes. Putting together portfolios, building websites. Maybe handling the back end work that other business owners don't have time for. You could offer services like programming or consulting. These are businesses where clients hire you for what you produce and what you know, not for how many followers you have or whether you went viral last week.

The through line in all of this is that the work speaks. You're not performing a version of yourself to get someone's attention. You're creating something that holds value on its own, that gets found by the right people, that builds over time without requiring you to be perpetually visible. And that kind of presence that's built on depth and craft and consistency, and it tends to last a lot longer than what gets built by creating what's trending.

Showing up on video daily isn't just a time commitment. It's a creative and emotional one. It requires you to be on and expend a lot of energy. And for a lot of us, that cost is real. But when you build in a way that matches how you actually think, work, and communicate, you have a lot more to give. The work is better and being consistent is easier. You're not forcing yourself every single day just to stay visible.

If you've been sitting on what you know, waiting until you feel ready to get in front of a camera, wondering if you'll ever get comfortable enough to finally start. Remember, this isn't the only door. There are a lot of other doors. You get to choose the one that fits how you work and how you want to show up in the world. What you know has value. The way you share it is yours to decide.

I hope today's episode gave you a little more room to breathe, and maybe helped you see a path you hadn't considered before. If you haven't already, please follow the show so you don't miss what's coming. I'll see you in the next episode.

What if I told you that the thing you already know, the stuff you already use, and whatever you make or create could all be making you money online. Some of these platforms already have buyers built in, and others just make it a whole lot easier to sell what you've got. And you don't need a massive audience to do any of it. Stay with me, because that's exactly what we're talking about today.

I'm so glad you're here, because this episode has been living in my head for weeks, and I can't wait to get into it with you. Before I do, I have to ask you something. Have you ever heard of whatnot? I came across it on another podcast a while back, downloaded it just to see what it was and immediately fell down the rabbit hole. I'm talking hours. I couldn't stop watching, and it ended up being the thing that cracked this whole episode open for me.

One of the things I hear constantly from women in this community is some version of, I don't have a big enough following yet. Like the audience has to come first before the income can start. And I understand why it feels that way. We've been so conditioned to think that building on Instagram or showing up on social media every day is the only path. But what if that's just not true? What if there are places where the audience is already waiting, already shopping, already looking for exactly what you have, and your job is just to show up there. That's what today is about. We're going to talk about real platforms where real buyers are already spending money right now, and how you with what you already know, what you make, what you already love could be one of the people they're buying from this week. Not after you hit ten thousand followers this week. And I want to show you what that can look like, because I think sometimes it's easier when you hear an example to be able to understand it.

So let's talk about a ceramicist who's been at her craft for over fifteen years. She makes mugs, bowls and vases, things people love and actually use for most of those fifteen years. She sold at local markets and people in her circle. Good but limited.

Then she started putting her work on Etsy. She started doing live sales on whatnot, where her regulars show up every week just to see what she made. She built a beginner ceramics course that she sells online, and she has an Amazon associate storefront where she links her favorite tools and supplies the exact things her customers always ask her about. And she earns a commission every time someone buys through her link.

Same person. Same fifteen years of skill for completely different ways for money to come in. And none of it required her to go viral. That's what we're building toward. So let's get into it.

Let's start with physical products and WhatNot, because it's the one I can't stop thinking about. The WhatNot app is a live selling platform. So think of it like QVC, but run by people from their living rooms, offices and studios, and even their garages selling everything you can possibly imagine. And when I say everything, I mean it.

I watched someone do a live garage sale, literally just clearing out their house, holding things up to the camera, calling out prices, taking bids, and in a shop right alongside that. There were people selling the most coveted luxury handbags and jewelry I've ever seen. Same platform, completely different products. Both of them packed with buyers.

What really got me was the energy in each of these shops. The sellers I kept going back to weren't just selling. They were performing, connecting, entertaining. They knew their repeat buyers by name. They'd call someone out like, "oh, hey, Sara's back. She got the blue one last week." They do giveaways in the middle of the show just to keep the energy up. They'd ask, "what do you want to see next? Put one for Gucci, two for Chanel in the chat", and people would just respond immediately.

It's interactive in a way that a product listing on a website just isn't. And if you don't want to be the one on camera, you can have someone else do that part while you run the logistics behind the scenes.

And here's the thing about live selling that I think a lot of people don't realize it's been absolutely dominant in Asia for years. It's a massive part of how people shop in Japan and China and across Southeast Asia. It's just now really hitting its stride here in the US, but it's growing fast, which means getting in now before every category is saturated is a real opportunity.

If you make something or have stuff to sell and I'm talking everything from jewelry to candles, clothing, vintage finds, collectibles, anything whatnot is definitely worth a serious look. The cost structure is pretty straightforward. WhatNot takes eight percent of the sale, plus about three percent for payment processing, so roughly eleven percent total. But there are no listing fees and no monthly subscription. The buyer pays the shipping. You do need to ship within two business days of the sale, so it's not completely hands off. But for someone with inventory, some personality, some free time, this is a real option.

Now Etsy, which I'm sure you're familiar with, definitely deserves its reputation. What makes Etsy worth understanding is the intent behind the traffic. People who go to Etsy, they aren't just scrolling to be entertained. They're searching. They type in exactly what they want, such as a handmade ceramic mug or a vintage wool coat, a personalized baby gift because they're ready to buy that specific thing.

So when someone lands on your Etsy listing, they were already looking for it. The fees on Etsy are layered and it's worth knowing them going in. You pay twenty cents to list each item, and that listing stays live for four months. When something sells, it's going to take six point five percent of the sale price, including shipping, plus a payment processing fee of about three percent. And when you add it all together, you're realistically giving up somewhere around twenty percent of your sales to fees.

So pricing with that in mind matters. But you're buying access to over ninety million active buyers who didn't come there to scroll. They came there to shop.

Amazon Handmade sits in a similar space. It's Amazon's dedicated marketplace for artisan sellers, which means your work lives inside Amazon's ecosystem with a signal that says a real person made this. Their fees are comparable to Etsy, and the competition is real, after all, it's Amazon, but the traffic is enormous.

And then there's TikTok shop which is growing so fast it would be wrong not to mention it. TikTok shop lets sellers list products directly inside the app. Buyers can discover something through a video or a live stream and check out without ever leaving the app.

In 2025, the platform logged over one hundred billion US searches with shopping intent. That number still gets me every time I say it. The algorithm also does a lot of the discovery work for you, so a product that photographs or demonstrates well has a real shot at reaching people who weren't even looking for it yet.

TikTok shop does reward consistency. You need to be creating content regularly for it to work in your favor. But if you're already on TikTok anyway, adding a shop is a natural extension of what you're already doing.

Now we're only covering a few of the platforms available to makers. We could do a whole separate episode just on this category, but these are the ones worth knowing first.

Now let's talk about selling what you know. And before I do, I want to say something that I tell people all the time. If you can do something, you can absolutely teach it. This is not motivational bullshit. It's just true. And the women who are most resistant to that idea are usually the ones who've been doing something so long it just feels completely ordinary to them. But it's not ordinary. It's earned.

Let's think about our ceramicist again. She answered the same beginner questions a thousand times. She knows exactly where people get stuck, exactly what they wish someone had told them at the start, exactly which tools are worth buying and which ones aren't. That knowledge, the specific hard-won, been there knowledge is a course. Someone out there wants to learn ceramics from somebody who actually does it, not from a textbook that someone is willing to pay for it.

And I'll use my own situation here as well. I create content and digital offers. I host this podcast, and if I sat down and thought about it, I could sell storyboard templates and course planning templates on Etsy right now. I could offer a full course on a platform like Thinkific or Udemy. I could have a lower priced offer, like a mini workshop or a quick start guide on Stan Store.

I have skills and tools and processes that other people would find useful, and so do you.

So let's talk about where you'd actually host something like that. Stan Store is worth talking about for simpler digital products. It's great for PDF guides, a mini course, maybe a resource library, or a single workshop recording. It's designed to work as a clean storefront or a sales hub that you promote and share with your audience.

Someone lands there, sees what you have, and buys directly. It's very low friction and it's extremely easy to set up. This works really well for offers in that lower price range. Think ten to one hundred bucks.

One thing to keep in mind though, Stan Store works best when you're actively directing people to it, whether that's through social or email, a podcast, or wherever you show up. You'll want to be regularly sharing that link so people know it exists.

For full courses, there are so many choices. Some of the most used are Teachable, Thinkific and Kajabi, but there's also Udemy, Skillshare and many, many others. The right one depends on where you are and what you need and how comfortable you are with tech.

I'm not going to tell you which one to start with because that answer is different for everyone. What I will tell you is that all of the most used platforms handle payments and student access automatically. They give you a professional home for your course content, and none of them require you to have an existing audience to get started.

Kajabi is the most comprehensive. It can handle your course, your email list, your landing pages, your community all in one place, and the price reflects that. Teachable and Thinkific are more focused tools and definitely less expensive. Spend some time on each of their websites and see which one feels good for where you're at right now.

And let's not forget about YouTube. You can create a private course on YouTube and set up a link to purchase. Once they pay, they have access to something your other YouTube subscribers can't see.

Again, these are just a few of the options in this space. There are others worth exploring depending on what you're building, but this gives you a real starting point.

You have knowledge that someone else wants. There are places built specifically to let you sell it, and you don't need a massive following to make your first sale.

The third way to show up, and the one I think surprises people the most when they realize it has earning potential is as a recommender. You already do this every time you tell a friend about a product you love. Every time you text someone a link, every time you say, "I've been wearing these shoes every day for six months and they're incredible." You're doing affiliate marketing without getting paid for it.

These platforms pay you for that exact behavior. Let me tell you about LTK or LikeToKnowIt, because I use this constantly as a shopper and I want to explain how it actually works from the inside.

LTK is a free app you can download on your phone. The way it works is that creators build a storefront on LTK and link everything they feature in their content. Think videos, photos, outfit breakdowns, room tours. Everything is shoppable. You see something you love, you tap it. You're taken directly to where you can buy it, and the creator earns a commission on the sale.

Now here's the part I love. As a shopper, and I think it's the part that makes LK different from just seeing an ad somewhere. I'm petite, I'm five foot two, and I've spent years buying things online that look nothing like they did on the model online. On LTK, I can follow creators who are specifically my size. I can see that someone's around my same height and weight, and if I like the way something fits on her body, I have a much better shot of it fitting mine.

That level of specificity, that trust, is why people actually buy through LTK. It's not advertising. It's a recommendation from someone with similar taste.

For creators, commissions on LTK typically run somewhere between five and fifteen percent, but that depends on the brand.

This one is an application process. It's not an open signup. They do want to see consistent content and an engaged audience on a social platform, particularly surrounding fashion, home, beauty or lifestyle, but you don't need a million followers. You just need to be showing up regularly with content that people are actually responding to. And once you're in, the work is ongoing, you'll want to be regularly sharing your LTK content across whatever platform your audience is on, whether that's Instagram, TikTok, a blog, or your email list so people know where to find what you're recommending.

Amazon Associates works on a similar model and has a lower barrier to entry. You get to build a curated page on Amazon filled with products you actually use and love. Promote and share your link on social blogs and so on. And when someone shops through your links, you earn a commission.

The rates are lower than like most everyday categories are in the three to five percent range, but they can be as high as ten percent for certain items. Now, here's the thing about Amazon that makes it interesting. When someone clicks your link, add your item and then keep shopping. You earn a commission on everything they put in their cart. In that session, not just the thing you linked the whole cart.

And I think about our ceramicist again. She's been answering the same questions about tools and supplies for fifteen years. Her students and customers are constantly asking, what kind of clay do you use? What glazes do you use? Where did you buy your kiln? And the Amazon Associate storefront is just a permanent, organized, shoppable answer to all of those questions. It costs her nothing to set up.

It earns her something every time someone buys through it.

Your existing knowledge and taste become a revenue stream on their own. And again, like and Amazon are just two examples in this space. There are plenty of other affiliate programs worth exploring depending on your niche.

Let's go back to our ceramicist one more time, because I think it's helpful to see the whole picture. She makes ceramics and sells physical pieces on Etsy and through whatnot where she knows her regulars by name. She built a beginner course that she created once and has been selling for two years. She has an Amazon Associate storefront where the same questions she's been answering for free her whole career now earn her a commission. And none of it required her to have one hundred thousand followers. It required her to take what she already had and put it in places where people were already shopping.

Now think about your own situation. What do you make or have that someone would pay for? What do you know so well It feels ordinary to you, but absolutely isn't? What do you use and love and recommend to people already?

Those aren't three separate questions, but they might be three separate income streams.

And we've only talked about a handful of platforms today. This is nowhere near a complete list. New ones pop up all the time. The point isn't to be on all of them. The point is that the options exist. They're real. They're accessible, and you get to choose the ones that make sense for your life, your skills, and how you want to spend your time.

Nobody's requiring you to go live on whatnot if that's not your thing. Nobody's requiring you to build a course if you would rather sell on Etsy. The freedom here is real.

So here's one thing I would love for you to do this week. Just one small thing. Go back through what we talked about today. The maker platforms, the teaching platforms. The recommender platforms. Pick the one that made you lean forward a little. Not the most impressive one. Not the one you think you should choose, but the one that felt most like you. Then go spend thirty minutes on that platform as a buyer or a browser this week. See who's selling. See what's working. Notice the energy. You're not signing up for anything. You're not building anything. You're just getting familiar with what you might want to move into. Because every woman who's thriving on these platforms right now started exactly where you are with something worth sharing and a decision to show up somewhere new.

Thanks so much for spending time with me today. If this episode gave you something to think about, please share it with a woman in your life who's been sitting on something that she should be selling. And as always, follow the show so you never miss an episode. I'll see you next time.

I want to tell you something a little embarrassing.

I have a folder. Actually, I have several folders full of saved post prompts, saved strategies, opinions about the right way to market a business. Reels. I've bookmarked threads. I take screenshots of tons of freebies that I've downloaded over the years. All of it sitting there waiting for me to do something with it.

And for a long time, I actually thought collecting all of that was helping me. Like I was building up some reserve of knowledge and I'd eventually cash in. But what I was actually doing was making myself more confused, not less. Because every single one of those saved posts said something a little different. And the more I took in, the less I trusted my own thinking. Sound familiar? Good because that's what we're going to talk about today.

So today we're going to talk about focus not in a productivity hack way, but in a real what's actually getting in your way kind of way.

I want to start with a conversation I had not too long ago with a great friend of mine. This is someone with more great ideas than most people I know, and they're constantly taking in information, podcasts, books, YouTube, you name it. Always learning and always consuming, always finding that next interesting thing.

And when I asked how any of those projects were coming along, they got quiet for a second because the honest answer was not really anywhere. Not because they weren't capable or that the ideas weren't good, but because they could never quite get traction on any one thing before the next idea or the next piece of advice pulled them somewhere else.

They call it shiny object syndrome. I call it noise. Either way, we both knew exactly what we were talking about. So I asked, what would it feel like to just pick one thing? Maybe not the most exciting thing or the perfect thing. Maybe the most important one. Or maybe just the easiest one to start with and put everything else down. No more consuming. No more researching. No more collecting ideas in the margins. Just that one thing until you make real headway on it. Or maybe even finished it. And then you can pick the next one.

They didn't answer right away and then said that would probably change everything. And we both sat with that for a minute because we both knew we were talking about ourselves. We're both in the same rabbit hole. Too much information, too many options, and so many people telling us what we should be doing or could be doing or maybe aren't doing yet, but definitely should be.

And when you're surrounded by all of that, something happens that nobody talks about enough. You freeze. Not because you don't know what to do, but because you know too many versions of what to do, and you can't figure out which one is right, which one's going to work. And so you end up doing nothing. You just keep consuming and planning and saving second guessing. And the thing you actually want to build sits right there waiting. That freeze is what this episode is about and how to get out of it.

So why is this so hard to escape when we're doing something that doesn't come from our core expertise or our lived experiences? I think we feel legitimately uncertain and uncertain is super uncomfortable. So we go looking for answers, which makes complete sense. The problem is, we don't find just one answer. We find fifty or one thousand. And instead of that making things clearer, it actually makes things so much worse. Because now we're not just uncertain about what we know. We're uncertain about everything everyone else has said too.

We've stacked all of these conflicting opinions on top of our own doubt and called it research. Take marketing, for example, and I'm using this because it's something almost everyone building their own thing has to figure out at some point. So you go online looking for a little direction and here's what you get. Use hashtags. Don't use hashtags. Hashtags are dead. Post every day. I believe quality over quantity. Stop posting every day. Show your face on video. It's truly the only way people will trust you. Uh, no. You don't have to show your face. Here are ten other ways to build connection. Grow your email list. Email is the only thing that converts. No. Be on social. That's where your people are. Pick just one platform and go deep. That's absolutely not true. You need to be everywhere. Posting several times a day. You may be nodding along right now because you've seen or experienced all of this. Every single one of those takes delivered with complete confidence by someone who swears it's the only way.

So what do you do? You save it. You screenshot it. You bookmark it for later, you download the freebie or whatever it is they're giving away. You join the challenge and you end up with folders full of advice that all contradicts itself. And every time you go to make a decision, you've got this whole chorus of other people's opinions that are drowning out your own.

The topic doesn't have to be marketing. It could be pricing or what to offer first, or how to talk about what you do, how to structure your time. Literally anything. Whatever area you feel least sure of, that's exactly where the noise moves in, and the loop is always the same. Consume. Second guess. Consume more. Feel worse. Rinse and repeat.

What's sneaky about it is that consuming feels like you're actually working. It feels productive. You're learning. You're staying current. You're not just sitting there doing nothing. But there's a real difference between information that moves you forward and information that just keeps you busy enough to avoid having to trust yourself. One of those things builds something. The other one just fills the space where a building could be happening.

Let's talk about what you actually came in with. You did not arrive at this empty. Whatever you're building, whatever you're trying to put out into the world, you're drawing on something real. Something you actually know from living it, doing it, figuring it out over time. And it doesn't matter how you came by it, whether it came from your career, from raising your family or running a household, from caring for other people around you or navigating something really hard, it all counts.

But here's what staying in constant consumption mode does. It makes you forget that. It keeps you looking outward for confirmation that you're on the right track. Instead of just trusting the knowledge that you actually have inside of you, you start treating everything you already know as a rough draft that just needs more edits, more outside input before it becomes something real. It's not a rough draft. It's the foundation. And no amount of knowledge or opinions are going to give you more than what you've already lived. The noise doesn't add to what you have. What it does is make it harder and harder to hear yourself over all of it. And when you've got enough voices in your head and they're all telling you different things, um, your voice just gets completely buried. Which is exactly when the freeze happens. Which is exactly when nothing gets built.

Getting quiet is not about shutting down your curiosity or listening to someone you trust, or stopping learning. It's about creating enough space to also hear your own thinking again. Because it's still there, it didn't go anywhere. It's just been really hard to hear.

So how do you actually do it? Not in a follow these five steps way, but in a real human way that might actually stick. The first thing worth looking at is what you're using consumption for in the first place. Not in a judgmental way, just as something worth noticing. Are you looking for something specific that you actually need right now, or does going online feel safer than sitting with a decision that makes you uncertain? There's no wrong answer, but knowing which one it is changes what you do next. If you're avoiding something more, research isn't likely to fix that. The only thing that really fixes it is deciding.

Another thing worth trying, and this one sounds small, but trust me, it's not, is to stop saving things. You're never going to come back to that habit of collecting advice like it's currency you'll spend later. Most of the time, it's just becoming more noise that's stored in a different place. When you stop saving everything, you have to actually decide in real time whether something is useful to you right now. Not someday, but right now. And most of the time it isn't. Which means you can just let it go.

And then there's protecting some time that belongs only to your own thinking. Even a small window where nothing else is coming in. You're not scrolling. You're not listening to a podcast. No checking what everyone else is doing. It's just you and the thing you're working on. This is where something really shifts. Because when you take away that outside noise, that outside input, you start having a different kind of conversation with yourself. And that inner conversation is where the real work happens.

So this is the part I want to spend a little more time on, because I think it's the thing that actually changes everything I know it did for me when you get quiet and I mean really quiet, and you stop asking what everyone else thinks you should do, you can start asking yourself the questions that actually matter.

What do I want this to accomplish? Who's it for? Specifically, what do I know about those people? How can I help them? What do they actually need and what would make this useful to them? Not just interesting? What am I trying to say and what's the best way to say it? Those questions don't come from any type of caption formula, or a strategy that someone posted online. They need to come from you, and the answers come from you too. From everything you've observed and learned and figured out over years of paying attention to the world and the people in it. That's not a small thing. That's actually the most important part of building anything that connects with people. And you can't access it when the noise is running at full volume. It only shows up in the quiet.

I think about how many times I've sat down to work on something, and just immediately reached for my phone, opened up a tab on my computer, or I've gone looking for just one more piece of input before I get started. And every single time, what I was really doing was just interrupting myself before I could find out what I actually thought. Because finding out what you actually think requires staying in the room with yourself long enough to let it come up. So when I stopped doing that, I started closing the tabs, putting the phone down, and just staying with the question. Things started to move. Not because I suddenly had this epiphany or better information from outside, but because I finally gave my own thinking enough space to show up. That's what's available on the other side of the noise. Not silence for silence sake, but the clarity that comes from finally being able to hear yourself.

I want to come back to the conversation with my friend, because what we landed on is worth saying out loud. The answer to too much noise is not finding better noise. It's not curating a more perfect collection of advice, or finally landing on the one framework that seems to make everything make sense. It's picking one thing and staying with it long enough to actually find out what's true. Not forever. It's not like you're signing a contract or anything, but long enough to stop preparing and start doing. Long enough to get the feedback that only comes from actually putting something out. Seeing how people respond to it, noticing what works, making tweaks to something that doesn't feel quite right. That feedback is specific to you and your work. You cannot get it from consuming. You can only get it from doing.

So, if you're in the freeze right now, if you've got real knowledge and a real desire to do something with it and you're still stuck, the problem almost certainly isn't that you don't have enough information. The problem is that you have too much of it, and it's drowning out your own best thinking. Pick one thing and put the rest down. Get quiet enough to hear yourself and then trust what comes up because it didn't get there by accident. You've been building toward this longer than you think. The noise just makes it harder to see.

Thanks for hanging out with me today. I hope this episode was helpful. Please share it with someone else that might be going through the noise, and need some helpful tips on how they can get out of the freeze and move towards building. Make sure to follow the show so you don't miss what's coming, and I'll see you next week.

Right now as you're listening to this, two very different things are happening in the world at the same time. Brands are finally putting women who look like us front and center, women over forty in major ad campaigns, two women in their seventies on the cover of Vogue. Not a tribute issue, a cover. The culture is starting to say out loud what we've always known that women at this stage of life are extraordinary, relevant, and worth showing up for.

At the same time, ageism is alive and well and getting bolder in the workplace, in healthcare, in the way we get talked over in a room, even in the way pop culture still largely treats women our age like we're background noise. The world has been telling women like us for decades that we peak at some point in our thirties. Everything after that is maintenance. That's a lie. And it's a lie that a lot of us have been carrying around without even realizing it.

Here's what this episode is about. We're going to look at both of those things together. We're going to get real about what ageism really looks like and where it actually lives. And then we're going to build the case for why women over forty are not just surviving this moment. We're built for it. Let's go.

I'm so glad you're here for this one, because this episode is a little bit of a celebration and a lot of a wake up call. The good kind. We're talking today about a cultural moment that's happening right now. Why it matters so much for women over forty specifically, and why the timing right now, this year is one of the best opportunities we've ever had to put ourselves and our experiences out into the world. We're also going to talk about platforms, visibility, about what free exposure actually looks like, and how to use it before the rules change, because they will change. And the women who show up now before that happens are the ones who will have already built something real by the time it does. You are a badass. You've been one for a long time. Today we're going to talk about finally acting like it.

So let's talk about what's going on out there. I think it deserves more attention than it's getting. Vogue just put two women in their seventies on the cover. That's not a small thing. That's one of the most influential publications in the world. Making a full creative choice with a straight face. To say that women at this stage of life are the face of what is aspirational right now. And it's not just Vogue. L'Oreal, dove, major lifestyle and skincare brands across the board have been building campaigns around women over forty, not tucked in as an afterthought, but front and center.

Now, why is this happening? Because the numbers finally got too big to ignore. Women over fifty spend two and a half times more than the average consumer. Gen X, which is a lot of us right now, is expected to drive over fifteen trillion dollars in global spending this year, which would make us the second largest consumer market in the world if we were a country. Brands have been leaving an enormous amount of money on the table by marketing almost exclusively to people under thirty, and they're finally figuring that out.

So yes, some of this is brands following the money. But here's what I keep coming back to. The effect is real, regardless of the reason. When the culture starts holding up women our age as aspirational. Something shifts in how the world sees us and maybe more importantly, and how we see ourselves. And that shift has practical implications for every single one of us who has something to share. Because if the biggest brands in the world are finally saying that women over forty are worth paying attention to and paying for, what does that tell you about what the market will do for the right person who shows up and says, "Here's what I know. Here's what I've been through. Here is what I can help you with."

I know some of you are listening to this and thinking, okay, but the world has not actually been rolling out the red carpet for women our age. And you're right, ageism is real. It shows up in hiring and how we get treated in certain rooms, in the way pop culture has largely treated women over forty as invisible until very recently. If you want to go deeper on that, episode 1 covers this in a lot of detail with great data to back it up. It's definitely worth a listen. But for today, I'm not going to spend too much time there, because the whole point of this episode is that there's a better conversation to be having.

The conversation isn't how do we fight to be seen inside systems that were not built for us? Instead, the conversation is the world is changing, the tools are right there, and we have everything we need to build something that doesn't require anyone's permission. That's where I want us to spend our energy.

Here's the thing about this moment that I think most people aren't fully registering. The platforms that let you reach people for free are still largely free. And I don't think that's going to be a permanent situation. Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube, podcasting. All of these platforms are still rewarding people who show up consistently with real content. The organic reach, the ability to build an audience without spending a single dollar on ads, the ability to get your ideas in front of thousands of people based purely on the value of what you're putting out, that's available right now. It hasn't always been, and it won't always be.

Platforms mature, algorithms tighten, pay to play models will take over. We've watched it happen on Facebook. We're seeing it happen on Instagram. It will keep happening. But right now there's still a window. And the women who use that window, who get their voice out there and build a following, who established themselves as the go to person for what they know, those are the women who will not need to chase the algorithm when it changes, because they will have already built the relationship with their audience.

This is not about going viral. It's not about performing on TikTok. This is about consistently showing up in whatever way feels right for you, whether that's a podcast, a LinkedIn post, a YouTube channel, and just letting people find you because they're looking. There is a massive audience out there that is hungry for the kind of experience and perspective that only comes from someone who's actually lived it. And most of the women who have that are still sitting on it.

The cultural shift we're talking about, the Vogue covers, the brand deals, and the growing recognition that women our age are relevant and powerful and worth listening to. That shift is creating an audience that is ready made for you. The question is whether you're going to show up for them.

So let's talk about what you're bringing to this, because I think a lot of us undersell it so dramatically that we just basically talk ourselves out of even starting. You have decades of experience that cannot be manufactured. You can't take a course to get it. You can't speed-run your way to it. You either have it or you don't, and you do. The instincts you have developed, the patterns you can recognize, the way you can read a situation that would take someone who hasn't lived it much longer to figure out that's worth something significant. Whatever you've been through, whatever you've built, figured out, fought for. That's your material. It doesn't matter whether it came from a career, a family, a community, or just a sheer accumulated weight of having lived a full life with your eyes open. The woman who raised kids and navigated a complicated marriage and came out the other side, knowing exactly what she wishes someone had told her, has just as much to offer as the woman with thirty years in an industry.

Real lived experience is what people are hungry for, and you have it in spades. That is what people are starving for right now. The polished, generic, perfectly curated content machine has literally produced so much noise that the signal everybody is searching for now is authenticity and real expertise. You have both. You've always had both. The culture is finally creating the conditions for it to be valued the way it should have been all along.

Women over forty are actually the fastest growing segment of new entrepreneurs in the United States right now. We're starting businesses. We're launching platforms, building audiences at a higher rate than any other demographic. A lot of that is women who decided to stop waiting for someone else to recognize what they bring and just go build something themselves. And the ones who are doing it, the ones who are showing up consistently sharing what they know, being unapologetically themselves. They're building something real on their own terms.

Now I know saying "just show up" is not actually useful advice. Let's make this practical. Showing up doesn't mean being everywhere. It means picking one or two places and being consistent. If you love to write, LinkedIn is one of the best free platforms available right now for reaching people who are looking for real perspective, not just tips and tricks, but actually insight from someone who has been in it. If you're more visual or you love having conversations, Instagram and YouTube are still rewarding people who show up with substance. And if you love talking like so many of us do, podcasting is still one of the most intimate and effective ways to build a real relationship with your audience.

The format matters less than the consistency and the realness. What works is showing up as the fully formed, knowledgeable, been through it, badass that you are, rather than a filtered down version of yourself that you think the internet wants to see. The internet has plenty of filtered down versions. It doesn't have enough of the real thing.

You do not have to have it all figured out to start. You don't have to have a perfect brand, or a website, or a content strategy mapped out for the next six months. You have to have something worth saying and the willingness to say it. The rest gets figured out as you go. The women who are building real audiences and real platforms right now are not the ones who planned it perfectly. They're the ones who started before they felt ready and kept going.

The door is open. The culture is backing you up. The audience is there. The only thing left is you deciding that what you've lived and you've learned is worth sharing. Because it absolutely is.

Here's what I'd like for you to take away from this episode. The door is not cracked open a little bit, asking you to squeeze through carefully. It's wide open. The culture is already saying women like you belong front and center. The platforms are there. The audience is there. The experience you've built over a lifetime is there. None of that is waiting on you to get more ready or more polished or more certain. The only thing that's ever been in the way is the story that it wasn't quite your time yet. It is your time. It's been your time. The world is just finally catching up to what you already knew.

If this episode hit something real for you and you think you have a friend that could also benefit from it, please share it with her. Follow the show wherever you listen so you don't miss what's coming, and I'll see you in the next episode.

You already know that you have something worth sharing. Maybe you've been listening to the show for a while, and the episodes about experience and expertise have been landing in a way that feels personal. Or maybe this is your first episode, and you found it because you've been searching for something that speaks to where you actually are right now. Either way, you're here because there's something in you that knows the knowledge you've accumulated through your career, your life. Problems you've solved, things you've figured out it's worth more than it's currently being used for, and you've probably had some version of an idea about how to package that up and make it available to more people.

Today we're going to talk about what that actually looks like. Not the overwhelming version where you're staring down a list of tools and platforms and tech decisions you don't want to make. The real version where someone who knows what they're doing works alongside you, and the only thing you have to bring is what you already have.

I'm going to dive right into this one because I think it's going to open up some possibilities you maybe hadn't considered. We've spent a lot of time on this show talking about why your experience is the foundation, why the decades you've put into your career and your life aren't something to minimize or apologize for, but rather something to build on if you want to go deeper on that. Episodes one through five are a great place to start, but today I want to talk about the next part. The part where you actually do something with it. Specifically, I want to talk about what a digital offer is, what it could look like for you, and what becomes possible when you stop trying to figure out the whole thing alone.

So what do we mean when we say digital offer? I think a lot of people immediately picture something complicated and time consuming. A course with a bunch of videos, a membership site with moving parts everywhere, or some elaborate tech setup that takes months to build. That's not what we're going to talk about.

A digital offer is simply anything you can deliver online that packages what you know into something useful for someone else. It could be a simple PDF guide or a template that someone downloads and is able to use immediately. It could be a short e-book on a variety of topics. It could be a blueprint or a roadmap that walks someone through a process that you've developed. It could be a workshop you teach live, and then make the decision to make it available as an evergreen recording. It could be an online course that they work through on their own schedule. It could be a YouTube channel built around a series of topics where your expertise is the through line, or it could be a hybrid of several of those things. The format isn't the starting point. What you know and who you're serving, that's the starting point.

The format is really just the container, and the right container depends entirely on what you're teaching and how your ideal buyer actually wants to learn it. That's one of the first and most important decisions in building any offer, and it's one that too many people make arbitrarily, usually by copying another format that they've seen someone else use. What works beautifully for one person's content and audience can be completely wrong for another's.

So before anything else, before the tech and the platform, before any of those decisions, the question is what do you know who needs it and what's the most useful way to get it to them? Everything else flows from that.

So many times I've worked with clients who have real experience in genuine expertise, and they have a real idea on how they'd like to share that. They get super excited and they start researching. They open up fifteen browser tabs about platforms and tools and email systems and course builders. And somewhere in the middle of all of that, the excitement turns into overwhelm and the idea just gets pushed aside. Not because the idea wasn't good or they don't have what it takes, but because they were trying to navigate a build process they'd never been through before, completely alone while also managing everything else in their lives. That's a setup for stalling, and it has absolutely nothing to do with capability.

The other thing that happens, and this one is worth saying out loud, is that while someone is getting ready to get ready, someone else moves forward with a version of that same idea. Not a better or more qualified version, just a version that exists because that person didn't wait until everything felt perfectly clear before starting. Imperfect action taken with the right support will always outpace perfect planning done in isolation.

So let's talk about what the alternative looks like. This is the part of the conversation that I think gets really interesting. At TLC Creative, everything we do with clients is built around what we call the Expert Evolution Method. It's our framework for moving someone from ideation, that stage where the idea exists, but nothing has been built all the way through to implementation. A finished, real, ready to go offer. And it works in four stages.

The first is Clarify. Now this is where we do the deep work. So before we touch a single tool or make a single tech decision, we spend real time getting clear on the vision and the offer itself. What is this thing you want to build? Who is it for specifically? Um, what does that person walk away with and how does it fit into the way you want to work?

This is the stage that most people skip because they're eager to just jump in and start creating and building. And it's the reason most self-built offers end up feeling scattered or hard to explain. Clarity at this stage changes everything that comes after it.

The second phase is Create. This is where we start setting up the infrastructure, creating the email sequences, choosing the tools, and starting the tech setup. The thing that makes your offer actually work in the world, rather than just existing as an idea.

This is also where we set up your customized digital dashboard. It's your workspace for the entire project. All of your content lives there. The project plan is visible and updated, so you always know exactly where we are and what's coming next. Nothing lives in a bunch of email threads or scattered across different documents. All project related content, including communications and strategic planning documents, all live in your dashboard. Everything's in one place. It's very organized and accessible, and you can see the progress happening in real time for a lot of our clients. That dashboard alone changes how the whole experience feels.

The third phase is Connect. This is where we start working on curriculum, messaging and delivery. How is the content actually going to be structured? What's the experience for the person on the other side of this offer going to look and feel like? How do you talk about it in a way that connects with the people you're trying to reach? This is also the stage where content capture really comes alive.

We work with you to draw out what you know, help you figure out what's essential versus what's nice to have and shape it into something focused and useful. Because an offer that tries to include everything you know doesn't serve your buyer. It actually overwhelms them. The best offers are intentional, not exhaustive.

The fourth phase is Convert. This is launch prep. We're talking automations, the workflows, the systems that make your offer ready to go out into the world. By the time we're done here, you'll have something built, structured, and set up to sell. Clarify, Create, Connect, Convert from idea to implementation.

Now let's talk about what this actually feels like when you're in it. We work with women in two different ways. Some want to be in it. Hands on learning the process, building with guidance. So they come out the other side, understanding what they've built and why it works. Others already have the vision in place and they just want to hand it off for execution. They'll bring the content, they'll show up for the conversations, and we take care of the rest.

Both paths move through the Expert Evolution Method. The difference is just how much of the doing you want to be a part of what stays the same either way is this you are never navigating alone.

There's a team in your corner who's been through this build before. In my case, thirty years of designing, developing and implementing learning experiences for people across every kind of industry and format. I know what questions to ask before you even know you need to ask them. And I can look at what you have and see the offer inside it more clearly than you can when you're too close to it. That matters more than any tool or platform or framework. The right people beside you change the entire experience of building something.

And here's the transformation I see happen consistently. Once women stop trying to figure out the whole thing by themselves, the spinning stops. The energy that was going into researching those platforms, second guessing decisions, starting over, starting over again, all gets redirected into the only part of this that actually requires you, your experience and expertise, your perspective, the way you can explain things that nobody else can replicate. That's what you're protecting when you get the right support around the build. Not your time, though you do get that back to your energy. And for women who have spent decades pouring that energy into other people's visions, pointing it toward your own is not a small thing.

I hope today's episode gave you a different way of looking at what building a digital offer actually involves, and maybe made it feel a lot more possible than it did an hour ago. If you've been sitting on an idea and the reason you haven't moved is that you couldn't actually figure out how to do it all yourself, I want you to know that's not the only option. The expertise is yours. The build doesn't have to be.

If you want to get clear on what your offer could look like before you talk to anyone. Grab our free mini course: Package What You Know. It's a great first step. It walks you through the early thinking. So what you have, who it's for, and how to start shaping it into something real. You can find it in a link in our show notes. It's also available on our website and our link in bio on Instagram.

Don't forget to follow the show if you're not already. Also, we'd love it if you'd leave us a review. You can always email me with any topic ideas that you'd like us to cover or any questions you may have. I'll see you next time.

JustANumber_Ep16

Okay, so I came across some data recently that stopped me in my tracks. And I don't say that lightly because I read a lot of research, but this one I actually had to put down and sit with for a bit. And when I tell you what it says, I think you're going to feel the same way because it completely blows up. One of the biggest lies we've been handed about who gets to start something and when.

You know what I'm truly tired of? The way most of the content out there aimed at women like us is written. Because here's what I keep noticing, whether it's a course, or a podcast, or a coaching program, or an ad on Instagram, so much of it is built on one assumption. That we're doing this because something fell apart, because the job disappeared, because the career stopped fitting, because the kids grew up and were trying to figure out what's next. Because we got passed over one too many times and finally had enough. And I want to be really careful here because for some women, that is the story. And that's real and a completely valid reason to start something new. But it's actually not the majority of the picture. Not even close. And the data that we're going to look at backs that up in a way I find really exciting.

Because when you actually look at why women over forty start something of their own and someone did the research, the number one reason isn't desperation. It's I always wanted to. It's a passion or a purpose. It's finally having the conviction and the space and the nerve to go after something that's been living in the back of your mind for a long time. And that changes everything, because there is a massive difference between building something from a place of fear and building something from a place of knowing. One of those is reactive and the other one is intentional. So today I want to make a clear case with actual data that most of us are starting from a much stronger place than we've been given credit for. So if you've been walking around thinking you're starting from behind, right? Too late, too old, too far from where you thought you'd be by now. I need you to stay with me. Because what I'm about to share completely changes that story.

But first, I want to make sure I'm talking to all of you. Because when we talk about starting something of your own, I think a lot of women immediately picture a very specific type of person, someone who came out of a career. Maybe it was corporate or education or finance, but someone with a resume that clearly maps to what they're building. And that's one version of this, but it's not the only version. We have options because I also see the woman who spent twenty years raising her kids and running a household, managing schedules. She's negotiating impossible situations, carpooling, figuring out how to stretch a budget, holding the whole operation together, and never once called that a skill set, even though it absolutely is.

I see the woman who was the unofficial go to in her community. She's the one people called when something needed to get organized, when someone needed support. Maybe when the neighborhood needed someone that could actually make things happen. Never had a title for it. Never got paid for it, but built something real.

I also see the woman who went through something hard. Maybe it was a health crisis, a divorce, a loss of some sort, or a complete reinvention of themselves, and came out the other side knowing things that other women are still in the middle of, desperately needing to learn.

I see the woman who has a passion, something that she's been doing for decades, just because she loves it, because she's gone deep on it because it's hers, who's never once thought of it as something worth building around, even though people ask her about it constantly.

All of you. This episode is for all of you, because here's what those stories have in common. Every single one of them is built on decades of real, lived knowledge and expertise. Knowledge and expertise that took time to accumulate, that can't be fast tracked or studied in a book. The kind of knowledge and expertise that only comes from actually showing up and doing the thing day after day, year after year, in the real world. And that's really the foundation of everything we're going to talk about today. You don't need a resume that maps neatly to what you want to build. You need the thing you know so well it feels second nature. The thing people come to you for, the thing you've been doing your whole life without anyone ever putting a dollar sign on it. It all counts.

Okay, now I want to get into the data, and I want you to really pay attention to this, because I think this might be the most validating thing that you've heard in a long time. Harvard Business Review did a study and not a small one. They analyzed two point seven million business founders. That's not a sample. That's actually a mountain of evidence. And here's what they found. Fifty year old entrepreneurs are twice as likely to build a successful startup as thirty year olds, and sixty year old founders actually outperform twenty somethings. Let's just sit with that one for a second. Twice as likely. Not a little bit more or marginally better. Twice as likely.

And then there's this, the average age of a successful entrepreneur is forty two, not twenty five. So the age that our culture has decided is the beginning of too late. Well, Harvard's research on two point seven million founders says it's actually the beginning of our peak. And that's not motivational spin. That's data. And I want to be really clear about why I find this so exciting. It's not just because it's a feel good stat, it's because it completely dismantles the story that we've all been told. The story said the window closes, that the people with the best shot are the young ones with, you know, the fresh ideas and the hustle mentality and the time to fail fast and pivot. Harvard looked at two point seven million founders and said, nope, that's not what the evidence shows.

So why do the numbers look this way? Let's talk about it because I don't think it's an accident. You know your audience because you are your audience. So when someone in their twenties built something, they're guessing to a large degree, they might be running surveys or testing assumptions. They're trying to figure out what their person actually needs. When you're over forty and you're building something for women at a similar point in their lives. You've lived the problem. You know exactly what it feels like from the inside. Not theoretically, but actually. And that's a huge advantage. That is years of live data that literally can't be bought. It's baked in.

You also have pattern recognition that no one can fast track. Now, by this point, you've seen enough cycles, whether it's in work relationships and how things actually play out versus how they look on the surface to know what's real versus what's noise. You've watched trends come and go. You've seen what holds and what doesn't. That kind of judgment is built over decades, and it shows up in every single decision you make when you're building something.

You're less likely to blow it on the wrong things. And so the research also shows that women over fifty who start something face fewer financial challenges than younger women entrepreneurs. That's because they're more deliberate and strategic. They're not busy chasing every shiny object or trying to pivot every six weeks because someone online tells them they need to. They're building with purpose, and that matters more than most people realize.

You're also done performing. This one is my personal favorite. Most women I know who are over forty have significantly less patience for the performative stuff. So we're done with the pretending, the shrinking, the constant asking am I credible enough? AM I polished enough? AM I enough? It's a spiral that we go through. Um, a lot of us have gotten past that. Maybe not completely. I know it still shows up for me every now and then, but more than we were. And that willingness to just show up as the actual version of yourself with directness. That's a brand voice. That's what makes content feel real in a space that is absolutely drowning in polished and manufactured. The online world doesn't need another perfectly curated social media post. It needs you. It needs the actual, unfiltered, been through it version of you.

The culture spent twenty years telling us we're past our prime. Harvard spent years studying two point seven million founders and came to a completely different conclusion. I know whose data I'm going with, and I think you do, too.

Now I want to go somewhere a little bit deeper and just stay with me here, because this is important. We've talked on the show before about the fact that your experience has value. That's what you've lived and learned and figured out, and knowing that it's worth something. I stand by that one hundred percent. But today I want to push just one layer past that, because it's not just that your experience has value, it's that your specific combination of everything you are, right. Everything you've done, everything you've been through, everything you care about, the specific way you see the world and your ability to explain things and connect dots across a lifetime of paying attention. That combination does not exist anywhere else on this planet.

Someone younger can study your topic. They can certainly get certified in it or a degree. They can spend years learning everything there is to learn. But these are things that you already know inside out. What they cannot do is replicate forty plus years of living it. Think about what that actually includes the specific work you've done, whether that was in an office or a classroom, a kitchen or a hospital, or maybe a volunteer organization. The specific hard things that you've navigated and what those experiences fundamentally changed about how you think the specific things you care deeply about, not just professionally, but as a human, the specific way you explain something that makes someone go, oh, I never thought about it quite like that. That's not a niche. That's a fingerprint, and fingerprints don't have competition.

And here's why this matters practically. When you build something from that specific genius and you stop trying to sound like everyone else in your space and just show up as the completely unreplaceable version of yourself, you stop competing because no one else can be you. There is no competition for the exact thing you bring. The women who build the most beautiful, resonant, lasting things in this space are not the ones who found the best formula, cracked the algorithm, or had an extremely huge launch. They're the ones who leaned so completely into their specific point of view that the right people recognize themselves in it immediately and never left. That's available to you. It's always been available to you. The only thing standing between you and it is the habit of looking outward for someone else to confirm what you already know.

And I want to say something specifically to the woman who's listening and thinking, oh yeah, I'm not an expert at anything. I don't have credentials. I just know things from living my life. That is the expertise. The woman who figured out how to rebuild after something broke her. That's a map that someone else desperately needs. The woman who found a way to care for aging parents while holding everything else together. That's knowledge that can't be found in a book. The woman who spent thirty years mastering something she did just because she loved it. That depth is real and it's rare, and someone out there is looking for exactly that. You've been walking around with a completely one of a kind perspective your whole life. The question has never been whether it's valuable. The question is whether you're finally going to stop waiting for someone else to tell you that before you do something with it.

Okay. Last thing. For most of the women listening right now, a significant portion of your life has been spent shaping yourself to fit someone else's structure, their schedule, their definition of what good looks like, of how you should be producing, and how you should be showing up. Maybe it was a corporate structure. Maybe it was the family, the institution, the systems. That said, here are the rules that yourself into them. And maybe if you're good enough and patient enough and quiet enough, you'll be rewarded. Some of you were rewarded and some of you did everything right and still got passed over, still got capped, still got told directly or indirectly that there was a ceiling on what someone like you could expect. And some of you poured everything into raising kids, supporting a partner, caring for parents, holding communities together. And the reward was largely invisible, unpaid, and sometimes even taken for granted. And I'm not here to be bitter about any of these things. That's real life.

But here's what I want you to understand. That time is over and building something of your own is the first time, maybe in a very long time, that you get to design the whole thing around who you actually are. This means you get to decide what you share and what you build, not what's marketable or what's trending right now. What actually excites you. What could you talk about for hours without ever checking the clock? What have you been doing so long? It's just become part of who you are. That thing, that's usually where it starts.

You get to decide how you show up. Not on camera every day. If that's not you. Not performing a version of yourself. The algorithm wants to see in the actual format that fits how you think and communicate on your schedule, in your voice. You get to decide what success means, not someone else's revenue goal or follower count, right? Not a definition of it that was built for someone else's life, but the actual work that makes you feel like yourself. The actual contribution that feels like it matters.

And here's something else. The research backs up. Older entrepreneurs consistently choose well-being over hustle. That means they're more deliberate about what they take on. They are actively prioritizing fulfillment over grinding. And that's not settling. That is the wisest possible way to build something that actually lasts. You spent years, maybe decades, being excellent inside structures that someone else built. Now you get to build your own. And here's what I know about you. You already know what a good structure looks like. You've been working inside bad ones long enough to be able to recognize exactly what needs to be different. That's everything. You finally get to build something that fits you. Instead of spending one more day bending yourself into something that was never designed with you in mind.

Here's what I hope that you take away from today's conversation. You're not here because something broke. You are not a plan B and you are not behind. You're here because you have something worth sharing that literally no one else on this planet can replicate. Because the research says you are statistically in your strongest years for this, because you're building with purpose and conviction and forty plus years of accumulated Replicable, one of a kind knowledge and experience behind you. Whether that came from a career or a calling, or a hard road, or a passion that you've been quietly devoted to for decades. It all matters. And someone out there is waiting for exactly what you have. The only thing left is you deciding to stop waiting for permission, because that's not coming from the outside and you've never really needed it. You're not starting because you have to. You're starting because you finally can. And those two things produce completely different outcomes. So go build the one that's been waiting for you.

Thanks so much for hanging out with me today. If this one landed for you and I really hope that it did, please follow the show so you don't miss what's coming. And if you know a woman who needs to hear this, send it to her. That's how we find each other out here. I'll see you in the next one.

Just A Number_Ep17

You've got an idea. Maybe you've had it for a while. Something that you keep coming back to that you actually know a lot about, but you haven't moved on it yet. And somewhere in the back of your mind, there's this quiet worry. What if I build the whole thing and nobody wants it?

That fear is completely valid. But staying stuck because of it, that part's optional. What most people don't know is you can find out whether your idea has legs to stand on before you build a single thing. And I'm talking about no website, no following, no budget. That's what we're going to get into today.

So we're going to talk about something that sits right at the intersection of excitement and fear. That moment when you have an idea for something you could teach, offer, or build, and you just don't know if anyone else needs it as much as you think they do. This is one, I think, of the most common places that women get stuck. Not because the idea is bad or because they lack the skills or the experience, but because they're skipping a step, or they're so afraid of the answer that they never go looking for it to begin with. So we're going to talk about validation, what it actually means, why it matters, and most importantly, how you do it when you're starting from zero. No audience, no platform, no fancy tools. We're talking about just you, your idea, and some signals that will tell you whether you've got something worth building or not.

So what is validation and what it isn't? Let's start there, because I think there's a lot of confusion about what validation even means.

Validation is not your best friend telling you that it's a great idea. She loves you. And of course she thinks it's great. It's also not your spouse or partner being supportive or your sister saying, I'll totally buy that. And it's not posting about your idea online and getting a bunch of likes and heart emojis. Likes are not dollars and encouragement is not demand.

Real validation is a signal from someone who has absolutely no reason to be polite. It's a stranger. Someone outside your circle who says, I need this? Or where do I sign up? Or who actually hands over money before the thing even exists? That's the bar. And I know it's a little scary and may sound daunting, but it's actually more achievable and easier than you think. You don't have to build an audience first, and you don't need to have a platform already set up. You just need to get in front of the right people and ask the right questions.

So I want you to think about starting where you already are. One of the things that trips so many women up is the fact that I'm saying you don't need an audience. What you need is access to people who have the problem that you want to solve. And that's a very different thing. So think about your life right now. Your former colleagues, maybe the women in your professional network, Facebook groups that you already belong to, or you could reach out to your alumni community, the people you see at church or the gym or in your neighborhood, maybe the moms that you know from your kid's school and sporting events or the women in your book club. These are not random people. Some of them, maybe many of them, are exactly the kind of woman that you want to serve. They're your first research pool. And most women I talk to dramatically underestimate how much access they already have. So you're not starting from nothing. You're starting from your real life. That's actually a head start.

So let's take a second here and get practical. We're going to take a look at six ways that you can validate your idea. That costs you. Nothing, requires no following and can be done this week.

The first one is the simplest and I think the most powerful. And that's real conversations. This is not a pitch or a survey. I'm talking about a genuine conversation with someone who fits the profile of the person that you want to help. Now you're not asking them what they think of your idea. You're asking them about their experience of the problem. What's hard? What have they tried? What do they wish already existed? Your job is to listen, not sell. And what you hear in those conversations will shape everything from your offer, your messaging, and even what you decide to call the thing. You need to aim for ten to fifteen of these conversations. It sounds like a lot, but it's not. You can do two a week for a month, and you'll have more clarity than most people get after six months of planning.

The second method is to go where your people already are online. So we're thinking of Facebook groups, Reddit threads, LinkedIn groups, maybe even a next door community or a local forum. Instagram threads, something of that nature. You're not going in there to promote yourself either. You're going in to listen, to observe. What are people complaining about? What questions keep coming up and what are they frustrated by? And pay attention to the exact words they use because that language is gold for your messaging. Now, when you eventually talk about what you do, you want to sound like them. You want to use their words, their phrases. You don't want to sound like a marketing brochure.

The third method of validation. And this one surprises people sometimes. Is Google and YouTube. They're actually validation tools. You can type your topic into Google and see what autocompletes. That autocomplete is real people, millions of them telling you what they're searching for. You can go to YouTube and search your actual topic. How many videos are there? How many videos do the top ones have? If there are channels with hundreds of thousands of views on topics related to your idea, that's not competition. That's confirmation that people care about this and they need help with it.

Fourth is what a lot of people call the coffee chat. You reach out to ten people in your network. Again, you're not pitching them. You want to learn from them. So something like I'm exploring an idea and I'd love twenty minutes of your perspective. No agenda, just your experience. People will say yes to this more than you think because you're not asking them to buy anything. You're asking for their experience, their pain points, what they're struggling with, and most people are happy to share it.

Fifth is a simple landing page, and before your eyes glaze over, just hear me out. A landing page does not have to be complicated. It can be a single page, maybe just with one clear paragraph describing what you're thinking of building with a simple let me know when this is ready. Email sign up. You share it in those communities that you're already in with your network via email. If strangers sign up, people who don't know you at all, that's also a real signal. That's someone saying, yes, I want that free tools like card, which is C, a r r d, or even a basic MailChimp or Flodesk page can have this live in a matter of hours.

And sixth, use AI to stress test your thinking. You're talking about tools like ChatGPT or Claude or Gemini that can help you research your market. It can help you identify who is already serving this audience and poke holes in your idea before you put it in front of real people. So you can kind of think of this as your brainstorming partner. Use it to pressure test your assumptions, but not to make decisions for you.

So with all that being said, what are you listening for? Right? Because not all feedback is equal and this part matters too. That sounds interesting, is polite. So is. I love that idea and someone should really do that. These are nice to hear, but they're not what you're looking for. What you're listening for sounds more like I've been looking for exactly this. When can I sign up? Do you have a waitlist? How much does this cost? I know three other women who need this. That's the difference between curiosity and demand. Curiosity is more passive. People are mildly interested or they're just being supportive. Demand is active. It is people who want to do something about it, right? You're looking for demand, and if you're not hearing it yet, that doesn't necessarily mean that your idea is wrong.

It might mean that you're talking to the wrong people or asking in a way that's not quite landing. So keep adjusting, but keep listening. The signal is out there.

Okay. Let's get real with this for just a second, because I also see this happen a lot. Some women use. I'm still validating the same way they use. I'm still doing research. It's a very comfortable, very socially acceptable way of not taking action. Validation sounds responsible. It sounds smart, and it gives you something to say when someone asks how your idea is going. So let's talk about what enough actually looks like. So you don't use this as a hiding place.

You don't need one hundred yeses. You need ten real ones. Ten people outside your inner circle who light up when you describe what you're thinking of building. Ten coffee chats where someone says, I would absolutely pay for that ten sign ups from people you don't know. That's enough. It's more than enough. If you have that, you have something real. And the next step is to build a small version of it, get it in front of those same people and see what happens. See what kind of response you get from them.

So today I'm going to leave you with this. You do not need a platform, a following, or a finished product to find out if your idea has legs to stand on. You need curiosity. A few honest conversations with the right people, and you need to go looking in the places where your audience already lives. And you need the willingness to hear what's actually true, even if this means that you may need to make some adjustments or pivot slightly, or even go back to the drawing board. Finding out the truth early before you've spent months building something is not a failure. It's the whole point. It's how smart people build things that actually work. The answer to does anyone actually want this is already out there. You just need to go find it.

We're going to take a short pause on the next episode. It'll be out the first week of June, so make sure that you are following the show so you don't miss what's coming, and I'll see you in the next one.

Hey, welcome back to just a number. We took a week off. Um, so today we're going to start with something simple. Most of us grew up thinking about income as one thing, one job, one paycheck. But there's a whole other way to look at it, especially right now when a lot of people are rethinking what financial stability actually looks like for them. So we're going to talk about what it looks like to build multiple streams of income, what the real options are, what each one involves, and how you can start figuring out what might make sense for you, where you are right now.

So this is going to be a broad overview. It's not a step by step plan, but my goal is that by the end of this, you have a better picture of what's possible and some real direction on where to start doing your own research. And I mean that literally. Part of what I want to do today is show you that the research you need is all around you. You just have to know what to look for.

Before we dive in, I want to address something directly because I think it gets overlooked a lot or misunderstood. I'm sure that you've heard the term passive income, the idea that you set something up once and then the money just magically rolls in while you sleep, while you're on vacation without you really having to do much of anything. And that's just not really how it works.

Nothing is truly passive. Every income stream you build requires you to create something, put it in front of people, and maintain it over time to some degree. Now the work looks different depending on the type of offer, but the work is still there and I think it does people a real disservice when that part gets glossed over, because then you build something and when it doesn't run itself, you think you did something wrong. You didn't. That's just how it works.

Now there is a version that's really appealing and absolutely possible, and that's the idea of an evergreen offer, something you build once that you can sell on repeat without recreating it every time somebody new buys it. And that's great, but you still have to drive people to it. So this may mean running ads or posting about it consistently. It might mean showing up in places where your audience is already spending time. None of that happens automatically. The same goes for every other income stream we're going to talk about today. There is always going to be some level of effort involved in building it and growing it and keeping it going. Now, when you know that going in, you can plan for it. And more importantly, you can stop waiting for some version of this that requires nothing from you. Because honestly, I don't think that version exists.

Okay, with that said, let's talk about what your real options are. If I had to point someone toward a starting place, it would be digital products, courses, templates, guides, workbooks, ebooks, things of that nature. So anything that you can create once in a digital format and sell repeatedly without having to recreate it for each buyer. Now, you've almost certainly encountered these. Maybe you've downloaded a free guide somewhere and then been offered the opportunity to take a paid course. Maybe you've bought template packs like Canva templates, spreadsheet templates, social media kits, or maybe you've enrolled in an online course through a platform like Thinkific or Teachable. All of that falls under the digital product umbrella.

What makes digital products such a natural starting point is that the barrier to entry is lower than most people think. You don't need a huge audience. You don't need a big team to support it or have a lot of overhead. You need something valuable to teach or share a way to package it so someone can access it on their own. The evergreen piece is what makes this so appealing. So once the product exists, it exists. You can sell the same course or template to someone two years from now that you sold today without delivering it fresh every time. So that's what people are actually pointing at when they talk about passive income. Not that you do nothing, but that you're not starting over with every single sale.

Digital products also give you a ton of flexibility in terms of price point. So you can have something at a lower price point that's easy for people to say yes to, and something more comprehensive at a higher price point. That range is actually one of the ways that you can build multiple streams within a single topic area.

So here's where I want you to start doing some research. Go to Etsy or something similar and search for digital templates. And don't just search in your niche. I want you to look across categories. Search for things like meal planning templates, resume templates, party planning printables, jewelry making guides. What you're looking for isn't the specific topic. You're looking at how these offers are structured. What's included? How is it described? Are they leading with a problem someone has, or are they leading with a solution? How are they pricing it? What does the listing tell you about who it's for?

Then go to like CreativeMarket.com and do the same thing. Creative Market tends to skew toward like design assets like fonts, templates, branding kits. But the principle is the same. You're training your eye to recognize what a well positioned digital product looks like, what information it includes, and how the seller is talking about what they're offering. That's research you can do right now for free without needing to buy anything.

The next category is coaching and consulting. Now these two often get used interchangeably, but they're actually a little different. And understanding the distinction matters because it affects how you structure and sell each one.

Consulting is generally more targeted and outcomes specific. So think about a business consultant who may get brought in to help a company streamline their operations or solve a specific problem. There's a defined goal, and the consultant is applying their expertise directly to help them reach it. It tends to be a one on one or a small group situation, and it's very focused on a particular result.

Coaching is much broader. So a coach might work with a large group, a small group. They might run a cohort style program where everyone moves through the material together. Or maybe they're offering a self-paced video series or course that people work through on their own time. So think about things like leadership coaching or a group program that teaches a skill set over several weeks.

Both are built around your knowledge and your ability to work with people. And for a lot of us, this feels more natural than building a product, at least at first, because it's a conversation, right? It's a relationship. You're solving a real problem for a real person or group, and you can see the impact directly. The trade off is that coaching and consulting involve more of your direct time than a digital product does. Now that's not a problem. It's just a different kind of income stream.

One on one consulting tends to command a higher price point because it's specific and direct. Group coaching lets you serve more people at once, which changes the math in a different way. For research here, I want you to think of a topic you're interested in and search for it, plus the word consultant or coaching. Just see what comes up. Find a few people that are doing something similar to what you might want to do, and look at how they're presenting their offer. How are they describing what they do? How specific are they getting? Are they speaking to a problem someone has, or are they describing a transformation? Are they being broad or very targeted? So I don't want you to copy anyone. Obviously you're just learning to read how offers in this space get positioned and what makes them compelling.

Speaking and workshops are also an income stream, and I believe it gets underestimated, especially by people newer to building something online. But these can be really lucrative, and they build your credibility in a way other offers don't quite replicate.

Let's start with speaking in person events, right? Virtual summits, conferences, panel discussions. Speaking puts you in front of audiences you might not otherwise reach, and positions you as someone with real authority on your topic. Paid speaking engagements are absolutely a thing, but I want you to understand what it takes to get there. It usually doesn't just fall in your lap. You may need to pitch yourself to event organizers, or maybe you need to reach out to people that are already in your network who can possibly help open doors. Building a speaking presence takes time and intentional effort, and it helps a lot to have a body of work behind you. So something like a blog, a course, a podcast, something that shows what you know and how you show up.

Workshops are a different animal and in some ways more accessible because you're the one creating and promoting the workshop you actually have control over when it happens and how you drive people to it. So something like a paid Zoom workshop is a real legitimate income stream. So is an in-person workshop, a ticketed class, a conference session.

For a really well known example of this model at scale, look at Master Class. People pay to take classes that are taught by experts on everything from writing to cooking to business. Sara Blakely talking about how she built Spanx from scratch. Gordon Ramsay teaching how to cook. The whole premise is that if you know something well, there's an audience willing to pay to learn it from you. You don't need to be "Master Class" to apply that idea. You just need a topic, a format, and a way to get people into the room.

When you're doing your research here, go to TED.com and watch a few talks. I don't want you to just watch for inspiration. I want you to actually study the structure. How does the speaker open? Do they start with a story, a question, or maybe a surprising fact? How do they move from one idea to the next? Then go to a place like Eventbrite and search for workshops in a topic area you're interested in. Look at how they're described. What's the promise? How are they pricing it? What does the event page tell you about who it's for and what someone will walk away with? So for this, you're building a mental library of what works by looking at what's already out there.

And then there's brand deals and affiliate marketing. These work differently from the other streams because they involve partnering with companies or brands rather than selling something you created yourself.

Affiliate marketing is probably the one that you've encountered the most, even if you didn't realize that's what it was. You know those YouTube videos or Instagram posts where someone is walking you through what drugstore makeup to buy, right? So what to buy, what to skip? Maybe a demo. Here's what I actually think about this product. A lot of those creators are earning affiliate commissions every time someone buys through their link. They've built an audience that trust their recommendations. And that trust is what makes the affiliate relationship work. Affiliate marketing can work across all kinds of niches everything from tech tools, books, kitchen gadgets, business software, literally anything where you have a real opinion and an audience that cares what you think. But the same principle applies no matter the topic. You have to drive people to that link. You're creating content, you're building trust, and you're actively putting the recommendation in front of people on an ongoing basis. The commission doesn't earn itself.

Brand deals go a step further. This is where a company pays you directly. Sometimes it's a flat fee. Sometimes there's a combination of fee and commission To feature or talk about their product. You hear this on podcasts all the time lately. Someone will say, this episode is brought to you by. And then spends a minute or so talking about a product they use. You see it on YouTube and Instagram, where creators are clearly in a paid partnership with a brand. Brand deals tend to be more accessible once you've built some kind of audience or content presence, and you don't necessarily need hundreds of thousands of followers, but you do need to have something right? A community or a platform. An engaged audience that makes the partnership valuable for a brand. So if you enjoy posting and you're comfortable talking about products that you like and believe in, this might be a really natural fit down the road.

So here's how to research this one. The next time you're watching a YouTube video and someone's talking about a product. Pay attention to how they're doing it. Are they opening with a problem and then presenting the product as the solution? Are they doing a demo? How much detail are they giving and what details are they choosing to highlight? Then do the same thing the next time you hear a podcast ad. How is the host talking about the product? How long is the ad and how are they connecting it to their audience? So you're not just consuming content anymore, you're studying it. And that shift alone is worth a lot.

So let's zoom out for a second and talk about why any of this matters. For some of you, building multiple income streams is about adding to what you already earn. It's a second stream, a third stream, something that adds up over time and gives you more financial flexibility and breathing room for others.

Or, you're thinking bigger than that. Maybe you've lost a job and you need to replace that income. Or maybe you're still working. But counting down the days until you don't have to be.

Multiple income streams that are built with intention over time can absolutely get you to a place where what you've built online is doing what a paycheck used to do. That's not a fantasy. It takes time. It takes focus. And maybe some trial and error. But it's a real outcome.

I don't know if you've seen Jesse Jean on Instagram, but she's been blowing up lately. She started her Instagram account about seven and a half months ago, talking directly to camera every day, maybe multiple times a day. She calls it yapping, and she basically yaps or talks about lots of different topics from flipping projects that she's involved in to financial issues. Um, why she's doing this. The point being is she continues to show up consistently. And in that seven and a half month time frame, she has built a 300,000 follower audience that's very engaged. And she recently just launched a forty day challenge to learn how to yap. And literally in one week's time, she made a million dollars ... not through brand deals or sponsorships, but by showing up consistently talking about the various topics that she's interested in and wants to share with others to help others. So I just want you to think about that for a minute and how that might apply to your own situation. If you're willing to show up consistently and talk about what you know, what you have experience and expertise in. It's there to help someone else, and someone else wants to learn that. Multiple streams of income is a great way to do that. She's just a very, very inspiring example.

So your income streams don't all have to connect to one central topic or one core offer. You can have a digital product about one subject, a consulting offer about something entirely different, and an affiliate partnership with a tool you use in your own work. There's no rule that says it all has to be one cohesive package. Some people build it that way and it works beautifully. Others build a collection of separate things that each serve a different audience or purpose. Both are valid. Both work. What matters is that each stream is built well, positioned well, and connected to something real.

I want to leave you with this, the goal of today wasn't to hand you a to do list. It was to open up the landscape so you can actually see what's out there and give you a way to keep learning, just by paying attention to what you're already encountering every day. So the next time you see an ad for a course, don't just scroll past it. Click the Learn More button. Look at how it's structured. What problem is it solving? Who is it for? What's the price point and what's included? You're surrounded by examples of how people are packaging and selling what they know, and every single one of them is a free lesson in how this works.

So start getting curious. Research the types of offers that feel interesting or realistic for your life right now. Look at what people in your space are already doing. Pay attention to the income streams you encounter as a consumer and notice what's working? You don't have to build everything at once, but you do have to start somewhere. And the best place to start is understanding what your options actually are.

I hope today's episode gave you a clear picture of what multiple income streams can actually look like, and maybe a few concrete places to start doing your own research. If you're ready for a practical next step, my free mini course package. What you know is a great place to begin. It's three short interactive lessons that walk you through mapping what you know to what you could actually sell. It's completely free, and it's designed to help you figure out what your first or next offer could be. You can find the link in our show notes. It's also in our Instagram bio and available on our website. Thanks for hanging out with me today and I'll see you in the next episode.

If you've got ideas swirling around in your head, a few notes somewhere on your phone, maybe a folder on your desktop that you haven't opened in weeks and you still can't figure out what to actually do first. I want to talk to you about it because the problem isn't that you don't have enough ideas. The problem is that you can't see what you have, and when you can't see it, you can't quite move on it. Today we're fixing that.

We're talking about dashboards in today's episode. And I don't mean a fancy tool or a complicated system that you have to learn before you can do anything useful. I mean, one place, think of it as a home base for everything that you're building. Let's get into it.

I'm going to start by painting a picture for you.

You've got something that you want to put out into the world. So maybe it's a template or a guide or a workshop or a coaching offer. You know, you have the knowledge because you've been doing this thing for years and people ask you about it all the time. That part isn't the problem. The problem is what happens when you sit down to actually build it.

You freeze. Because your notes are in three different places. You've got a voice memo that you've recorded in the car six months ago that had some really good stuff in it, but you can't even remember what app it's in. You've got a document or two that you started and then abandoned. You've got a folder somewhere with research you saved, and the rest of it is just living in your head, taking up space and making noise.

So instead of building, you end up spending your time trying to find things or you start over because it feels easier than tracking down everything that you already have. So you get frustrated and you walk away and the idea just sits there for another few months. That's not a you problem. That's a container problem. And the fix isn't more motivation or a better morning routine. The fix is having one place where everything lives, so you can actually see what you have and start making decisions about what to do with it. That's what a dashboard does.

Now I want to tell you where my thinking on this comes from, because it's not something that I just stumbled onto. It's something I've practiced for thirty years. My background is in instructional design and course creation. I've spent my career designing, developing, and implementing learning experiences across all kinds of industries. And one of the foundational principles of the work is this you always have a project plan and you always have a central storage location. Always. You don't build anything without it. That's not a preference. That's a best practice.

When I started building digital offers of my own, I asked myself, why would I even bother to do it any differently? So I didn't. I kept everything related to what I was building in one place voice notes, written notes, images, research documents, videos, exercises, all of it together so that when I sat down to work, I wasn't hunting, I was building.

And when I started working with other women to help them do the same thing, I saw the pattern repeated over and over. Not the content problem, the container problem. They had so much to offer, they just couldn't see it all in one place, so they couldn't figure out where to start. A dashboard solves that, but it solves something else, too. And I think this part gets missed a lot. Let's talk about that.

Before you can figure out what to build, you need to get real about something most people skip right over. And that's you. Your time, your energy, and how you actually like to work. Because here's what happens. Someone gets excited about an idea. They pick an offer type. Usually, a course, because that's what they've heard about the most. And they just start building. And somewhere around week three or four, they hit a wall. Not because the idea was bad, because the format didn't fit their life.

A course requires a certain kind of sustained energy and time commitment. So does a coaching offer or a membership. And they're all different.

If you work best in focus bursts, a course might be perfect for you. If you've got a demanding schedule with unpredictable hours, then a lighter offer might be a better starting point. If you love real time interaction, something that keeps you connected to people, uh is going to feel more energizing rather than draining. None of these options are better or worse, but picking the wrong one for how you prefer to work is one of the most common reasons people start and don't finish.

So before you decide what to build, you need to do a reality check. Get clear with yourself about what you have the capacity for right now. Not in theory or in a good week. Right now. That's the information that tells you where to start. And this is one of the hardest things to do on your own, because we're all really good at telling ourselves. We'll just figure it out as we go.

Sometimes you need someone or something to walk you through the right questions so you land on a realistic answer instead of an optimistic one.

Okay, so let's say you've done the reality check. You've got a clearer picture of your time and your energy. Now comes the part where most people make their second mistake. They pick an offer type without really understanding what it involves, and I get it. You hear digital product and you think, okay, I'll make a thing and sell it.

But digital products come in a lot of shapes, templates, guides, workbooks, full courses, mini courses, workshops, memberships, consulting packages, done for you, services. Each one has a different level of complexity to build a different price point it can support and a different relationship with the buyer.

A set of templates, for example, is something you can build relatively quickly, price accessibly and get into people's hands fast.

A full course is going to take longer to build, supports a higher price point, but also requires more from the buyer in terms of time and commitment. Those aren't the same offer, and they don't serve the same moment in someone's journey.

The goal isn't to pick the most impressive offer. The goal is to pick the right offer for where you are right now. And this is where the need to know versus nice to know distinction becomes really important. If you've been following the show, this isn't the first time you've heard me use those terms because when you're building your first offer, you don't need to put everything you know into it. That's actually not even helpful for the person buying it.

What they need is exactly enough to get the outcome you're promising them. The right things and the right order to get them from where they are to where they want to be. The rest of what you know, that's not wasted. That becomes what you build next.

And that's how you start to see the ladder, right? That natural progression from your first offer to your second and from your second to something deeper and even more valuable. So now we've got you grounded in reality. We've got you thinking clearly about what kind of offer actually makes sense. And now we get to the part that I think is the most satisfying. Getting everything out of your head and into one place.

Think of it as a vault. It's a safe place to gather everything. All those ideas and notes and documents. Your voice memo, brain dumps, the screenshots you saved because something resonated. Even the outline that you scribbled on a napkin. All of it in one place where you can actually see it. This is where something really shifts because when you can see everything you have, you stop feeling like you don't have enough and you start being able to make decisions.

You can look at what's in front of you and ask, if someone came to me today wanting to learn this one thing, what do they actually need to know to get that result? Not everything. Just that. What's the need to know? What can I set aside for later? That question is the beginning of your offer, and it's also the beginning of understanding the shape of everything that comes after it.

Putting all of this together doesn't mean you have to organize it perfectly before you can start. You don't. You just have to get it into one place. Put it all in. Everything. All of it. Then look at it. I'm not asking you to judge it. Just look at it. You might be surprised what's already there.

So here's where I want to tell you about something I built specifically for this, because I know what I just described. Right? The reality check. Figuring out your offer options. Getting everything into a vault. Sounds like a lot to set up on your own. And for a lot of people, the set up is what stops them.

They want the dashboard, but they don't want to build the dashboard. So I built it for you.

The TLC digital dashboard is a kit that's built in Notion, that's organized as a starting point for turning what you know, what you love, what you love to talk about into something you can actually offer without the overwhelm, without the pressure, and without pretending to be someone you're not. It's built around three simple sections.

The first is the reality check. So we've already talked about this, but this is where you get clear about your time and energy and how you like to work. So you can choose something you can actually finish, not something that sounds good in theory, something that fits your actual life.

The second is offer options. So this is where you learn what different types of offers really involve before you commit to one. Because picking the right format from the beginning saves you from building something halfway and then walking away because you're frustrated.

And the third is the content vault. This is your safe place to gather everything. All those ideas, documents, notes, images, everything in one place ready to work with. You can move through it in order or jump to whatever section is calling you first. There's no wrong way to use the dashboard.

It's available on the TLC creative website, and I'll put a link in the show notes too. It's thirty seven dollars. That's it. Because getting started shouldn't cost you a fortune.

And here's something else worth knowing. If you ever decide that you want to go deeper, whether that's working with us in a done with you coaching experience or having our team do a full done for you build for your offer. Having this dashboard already filled in means everything we need is already in one place. That saves you time and money.

I hope today's episode allowed you to start visualizing what it really looks like to get your ideas out of your head and into something you can work with. Not a complicated system or a big project. Just one place with the right prompts to help you get honest, get clear, and get moving. And if you want to go even further, take our free mini course "Package What You Know", we've dropped the link for this in the show notes too. I'll see you in the next episode.

Last week we talked about getting everything out of your head and into one place so you could finally see what you have and start building. And at the end of that episode, we touched on something we called the ladder. The idea that your first offer leads naturally to your second and your second to something deeper and more valuable still. Today we're going to talk about what goes on each rung of that ladder and what it's actually worth. Because figuring out what to charge is where a lot of people get stuck. And I want to change that for you today.

We're going to talk about something that's a little bit touchy and a little difficult to put specific numbers to. We're going to get into the psychology behind pricing. So not a formula or what you should charge for a specific type of offer, but the thinking behind how to get to a number that actually makes sense for what you're delivering. Because I think that's where the real work is. So let's get into it.

I want to start by asking you a question. When you think about what to charge for something you're building, where does your mind go first? For most people, it goes straight to the internet, right? You're going to open up a browser or AI, YouTube. You start searching and you look at what other people in your space are charging. You use that as your starting point. So maybe you land a little lower because you're newer, or because you don't want to seem like you're overcharging. Maybe it's somewhere in the back of your mind that you're just not quite sure your thing is worth as much as theirs.

And that's a comparison trap. Because what everyone else is charging has nothing to do with what your offer is worth. It tells you what the market looks like. It doesn't tell you what the outcome you're delivering is worth to the specific person that you're building it for. Those are two very different numbers.

We're going to walk through what's actually happening psychologically when someone sees your price. What guilt and fear due to the numbers we choose and how to start thinking about price from the value side instead of the comparison side.

Let's begin by talking about what happens when you price by looking at everyone else. So let's say you find someone in a similar space. Maybe they're selling a template bundle somewhere in the twenty dollar range. Someone else maybe has a mini course for under fifty. Another person has a workshop around one hundred dollars and you start triangulating. You think, okay, so something in that range feels right. Maybe thirty, maybe fifty dollars. And you land somewhere in the middle of what you've seen and call it done.

Here's the problem with that. You have no idea what went into any of those offers. You don't know what outcome they're promising or whether they're even delivering on it. You don't know what their audience looks like or how long they've been building trust with those people. You don't even know if they're making money at that price point or quietly losing it. So you're using someone else's guesswork as your reference point.

And what that does over time is keep prices artificially low across the board, because everyone is looking at everyone else and nobody is starting from the value that offer actually delivers. So it becomes a race to the middle that nobody wins. The question that should be driving your price isn't what everyone else is charging. It's what does this offer actually do for the person buying it? That's your starting point. Everything else is just noise.

A lot of us carry real emotional weight around pricing and money in general. And when I say a lot of us, I mean specifically women. This isn't a generalization. It's a pattern that shows up in research, and it shows up in conversations I have with women who are building offers and then talking themselves out of charging what those offers are worth. It usually comes down to one of three things, and they tend to show up together.

The first is fear. The fear that if you charge more, people won't buy. That a higher price point is a barrier of some kind, and it'll push people away, or you'll lose the sale before you even have a chance to show what you can do. So you lower the number just in case.

The second is guilt. This one is quieter, but it runs deep for many of us. It sounds like "This comes so naturally to me. How can I charge a lot for something that feels easy?" Or, "I've been doing this for so many years, but it doesn't feel like it should cost that much because I'm not a big name."

There's something really uncomfortable about asking someone to pay for something that came from you, from your experience and expertise, from what you know. Like putting a price on it feels like too much.

And the third is the comparison spiral. You look at what someone else is charging, someone who seems more established or more visible, maybe more confident and you think, well, I can't charge that much. And then you look at someone newer and you think, well, hmmm, I should at least charge more than that. So you end up somewhere in the middle that has nothing to do with your offer, and everything to do with how you're measuring yourself against other people.

Now, all three of these are normal and very, very common. And all three of them will keep you undercharging for as long as you let them operate in the background. You might be afraid. You may feel guilty. You might be in a comparison spiral right now. And that's okay.

Here's something that might shift the way you think about this. When you price something too low, you don't just leave money on the table. You actually change how the buyer experiences what they're getting. Think about it for a second from your own experience as a buyer. So you find something free online, you download it. How much attention do you actually give it? Like, do you block time for it, show up fully and implement what it teaches? Or does it just sit in your downloads folder? Maybe you don't even open it because there's no skin in the game.

Now think about something you actually paid for, even if it's something small, something in the twenty or thirty dollar range, something where you made a real decision to spend money. Did that change how you showed up for it? Did it feel different going in?

For most people, the answer to that is yes, because price is a signal. It tells the buyer what to expect before they've even opened what they've purchased. A low price can signal low stakes, right? A price that reflects value signals that what's inside is worth their time and attention. And this is where the guilt piece really comes into focus, because the guilt of charging for something that comes naturally to you might actually be working against the people that you want to help.

When you give something away for free, you're telling the person receiving it at a psychological level that it isn't worth much. When you charge for it, even if it's a small amount, you're saying this is real and valuable and it's worth your attention. And that changes how they receive it and how much they actually do with it.

So charging isn't taking something from someone. It's signaling to them that what they're getting has real value. And once that lands, the guilt starts to lose its grip.

Now let's talk about what's happening on the buyer's side when they see your price. Because this changes how you think about presenting your offer? Buyers use price as a quality signal before they've read a word of your description or heard a single testimonial. The number itself tells them something about what they're about to get. It's not conscious. It's the brain doing a quick calculation. Is this worth my money and my time? A price that feels too low can actually trigger skepticism. A price that feels proportionate to the outcome being promised tends to trigger confidence.

Buyers also don't evaluate a price in isolation, right? They see it in context. And that context is shaped by what they encountered first. This is called anchoring, and it matters more than most people realize.

Now, if you describe the outcome your offer delivers before you name the price, the outcome becomes the anchor. The buyer's brain is already holding that value when the number appears. But if you lead with the price and follow with the features, they're looking at a number with nothing to measure it against, which means they go searching for a reference point, which is usually whatever they find from someone else. So the order matters. Value first. Price second. Describe what someone walks away with, what's going to change for them, what they can do or stop doing after going through your offer. Then name the price. That sequence is doing real work, and it's a simple shift that most people never think about.

I want to share something from my own experience because I think it makes it more relatable. I've been doing this kind of work for a long time, and pricing used to be a real struggle for me. I had a terrible tendency to undercharge, and a lot of it came from exactly what we've been talking about, looking around at what everyone else was doing instead of looking at what I was actually delivering.

One of the things I've learned over time is that not all offers are the same pricing conversation. With our done with you and done for you services, for example, every project is different. Every person comes to the table with a different starting point, a different level of effort already put in, and different needs. So the price can't be the same for every client because the work isn't the same.

A course or a digital product is a different conversation entirely. When I built one of those offers, I know what the transformation looks like. I know what the expected outcome is for the person going through it. And I can price that at one price point and know that every person who buys it is receiving the same value as long as they put in the same amount of effort. That consistency is what makes it possible to price with confidence. And I think that's really the conclusion you have to come to whatever you're building. You've put real effort into creating something of value. If the person buying it does the work and they walk through what you've laid out for them, they're going to get an outcome that's worth something, worth something real, and you should charge accordingly.

So how do you actually get to that number? Start with one question. What does this offer do for the person buying it? Not what's in it or how many lessons or pages. What does it actually do? What does someone walk away able to do that they couldn't before? What problem does it solve? What does it save them, right? Does it save them time? Money? Frustration? Maybe it saves them the cost of figuring something out on their own. That's the value. And your price should reflect a fraction of that value, not the cost of your time to build it.

Here's a way to think about it. If your offer helps someone get their first digital product out the door, and that product brings in, let's say, even five hundred dollars in its first month, what was your offer worth to them? Certainly more than twenty dollars. Probably more than one hundred. The outcome has real value attached to it and your price should reflect that.

Now, coming back to the ladder we talked about in episode nineteen, your first offer is usually an entry point. It's accessible, it's something specific, something that delivers a clear result without overwhelming the person buying it. That offer can be priced to reflect the scope without racing to the bottom And because it's the first rung, it leads naturally to the next one, which goes deeper and delivers more and supports a higher price point. You don't have to put everything you have into your first offer to justify charging for it. You just have to be clear about the outcome it delivers and let that drive the number.

I hope today's episode gave you a different way to think about what your offer is worth; not what the market says, not what your gut says when it's scared, but what the value you're delivering actually supports. If you have any questions about pricing, feel free to drop us a DM on Instagram or you can email me. My email address is in the show notes. We'd love to help you figure it out, because the clearer you are on what you're offering and what it does for someone, the easier this conversation will become. I'll see you in the next episode.

What kind of woman are you becoming? Not what are you doing or what you're building. Not the skills that you're adding to your resume. What kind of woman are you becoming? Because I think for a lot of us, as we get older, there's something happening underneath the surface. And that's what we're going to talk about today.

Today's episode is going to be a little bit different. We're not talking about what to build or how to price or even where to start. Today we're going to go under all of that. We're talking about the feeling, the one that's been sitting with you maybe for a long time, that tells you something in your life needs to change. And we're going to talk about why it's there, what gets in the way of listening to it and why the fact that you're changing, that you're becoming something new is not something to be afraid of. It's actually something worth celebrating.

I want to tell you something that I used to say when I was a little kid. You know that question that every adult asks, every child on repeat. What do you want to be when you grow up? And kids will say, a teacher or a dancer or an astronaut or a rock star. I never had an answer like that. I couldn't point to a specific thing, but I also never just said I don't know and left it there.

What I always said was, I don't know, but I'm going to do something great. And my mom is reminding me of that more times than I can count, because it obviously stuck with her to this little kid who couldn't name the thing, but absolutely had no doubt the thing was coming. And I think about that now because I believe that feeling was always there inside of me, this knowing that I was headed somewhere, even when I couldn't tell you where.

I carried that feeling for a long time through school, through my early career, through years of working inside corporations and organizations, helping them reach their goals. And for a while, the work was good, right? It was interesting. I got to do things I cared about. I was building things even if it was inside of someone else's walls.

Somewhere in my mid to late thirties, something started to shift. It wasn't a dramatic thing. It wasn't like a single moment where everything fell apart. It was more like a pattern that I guess I started to notice. I'd come up with a good idea, something that I thought could have made a real difference in how we were approaching things at work, and it would just sit there, right? Not go anywhere. I'd be in a room and feel like I just wasn't being heard. And I started to notice that the opportunities, those stretch assignments, the leadership roles, the chances to grow and learn and try new things, they were going to other people, younger people, cheaper people, people who were maybe more eager to say the right things and the right meetings. And I certainly don't blame those people. That's not the point of this.

The point is that I started to feel like the organization had already decided what I was, and whatever I was, it wasn't someone with a future there. It was someone to manage toward the exit. Now, there's a phrase for this. It's called being put out to pasture. And if you felt it, you know exactly what I mean. It happens in workplaces, in volunteer organizations, communities and churches, in relationships, in the places where you've given years of your energy and your best thinking. And one day you just realize they've stopped asking. They've stopped giving you room to grow. They've filed you somewhere in their minds, under handled or done or too old. And it's not always loud or cruel. Sometimes it's just kind of quiet, right? It's the slow withdrawal of opportunity, and it's literally one of the most disorienting feelings in the world because everything looks fine on the outside. You still have the job, you're still showing up, but something inside you knows that something has changed. This feeling is not in your head. It's real. And it's also not the whole story.

Because alongside that feeling of being sidelined, there's usually another feeling. This one's harder to identify. I wouldn't call it frustration exactly. And it's not actually burnout either. It's the sense that your life wants to take on a different form, a different shape, that the version of you that exists right now is not the final version. That there's something in you that just hasn't had room to come out yet.

You're not the same woman that you were at twenty. Think about that for just a moment. At twenty, you had energy and optimism and this whole life stretching out in front of you, but you didn't know yet what you were made of. You hadn't been tested. Maybe you hadn't lost things or had to rebuild things or figured out what you actually believe in when it really counts. You didn't have the perspective that only comes from having lived through something. You were just getting started.

The woman you are right now. She has things that the twenty year old version couldn't have imagined. She has decades of experience in rooms where things actually happened. She's made decisions under pressure. She's shown up for other people over and over again. She's figured out what she values, what she won't tolerate, what excites her, and what drains her completely. She knows things, right? Real things. Earned things. And that is not less valuable than what a younger person brings to the table. It's actually more when that feeling shows up, that restless, knowing that something needs to change.

I want you to understand what it actually is. It's not a sign that something's wrong with you. It's not a crisis. It's the woman you've become. Knocking on the door of the life that you haven't built yet.

I felt this for years before I did anything about it. It was like something in the back of my mind that I could turn down, but I could never fully turn off. Sometimes it did show up as frustration. Sometimes it was just this restless feeling, this nagging. And the thing about this feeling is that it doesn't go away just because you ignore it. It gets louder and it finds new ways to show up.

For me, it showed up as this constant awareness that there were better ways to do the work. I cared about better ways to teach, better ways to design a learning experience to actually engage students and to use tools that fit the moment instead of whatever the organization had purchased three years ago and was committed to using forever. I'd known it for a long time, but as long as I was inside someone else's structure, I was always going to have to follow their path, their rules, their definition of what good looks like. And I could feel that closing in on me. The feeling that if I stayed, I was going to spend the rest of my career doing work I knew could be better and never getting the chance to prove it.

And I got to a point where I just knew if I stayed, that was never going to change. So why didn't I leave sooner? That's the real question. And I think about this a lot because I talk to women all the time who are in exactly the same place I was. They know something needs to change. They can feel it, but they're still there. They're still waiting, and they're still telling themselves it's not quite the right time. And I understand it because I lived it too.

It wasn't that I didn't want to go, I did. It wasn't that someone was telling me I couldn't. Nobody was standing in my way except myself. It was my own voice and my own head running through every practical reason why this was a bad idea. It's not logical. It's not financially smart. At the time we had a teenager. We have a mortgage. There was no guarantee here right there. There could be no salary, no benefits, no certainty of any kind. That's terrifying. And every one of those doubts had a real reason attached to it. They weren't irrational. They were just fear dressed up to look like wisdom.

And I kept attaching reasons to the fear. I kept telling myself it wasn't the right time, that I should wait until things were more stable, that maybe it would get better if I just stayed a little bit longer. I think a lot of you are in some version of this right now, and it might not even be about a job. Maybe it's a community you've outgrown or a role you've been playing for so long that it stopped fitting. Or maybe it's an idea you've been sitting on for years that you can't quite bring yourself to try. But you're in this place where you know something needs to change and you're holding on anyway, because the known thing feels safer than the unknown thing, even when the known thing has stopped fulfilling you.

I wish someone had said to me that the voice in your head that says it's not logical, it's not practical. It's not financially smart. That voice is not necessarily looking out for you. It's protecting you. It's just scared. And fear is not a reason to stay somewhere that you've already outgrown. Fear is just what it feels like to be standing at the edge of something real.

Now, I was fortunate in a lot of ways when I actually decided that I wanted to start my own business. My husband was super supportive and that definitely took some of the weight off. Not everyone has that, and I know that. But I also want to be clear that even with the support, nobody gave me permission. Nobody told me it was okay to go. I had to give that to myself. And that was the hardest part. It wasn't leaving my job. It was giving myself the permission.

The nudge that finally moved me came from an unexpected place. It was my boss at the time. The person who could have felt threatened by my restlessness, looked at me one day and said, why are you doing this for someone else? Why don't you just start your own company? We'll be your first customer. And something about hearing it out loud from someone who had actually watched me work made the fear smaller than the knowing. It was the moment I stopped waiting for the right time and decided to just try.

So what if you try and it doesn't work? It's a good question, but remember this you can always go back. You can always find another job, another organization, another role. But you'll never know what's on the other side if you don't try. And even if you start small, even if it's just one thing, one idea, one small experiment that you give yourself permission to attempt. There's something about trying that changes you. It tells you something about yourself that staying never could.

So back to the question I opened with. What kind of woman are you becoming? I don't think you need to have an answer for this right now, I really don't. This isn't the kind of question that you answer once and just move on from. It's a question you live with. You let it walk alongside you for a while, and you pay attention to what it shows you. But I do want to say this if you're in your forties or 50s or beyond, and you're, you're feeling that restless, knowing that sense that your life wants to take on a different shape, that's not a midlife crisis. That is not confusion. That is not you being ungrateful for what you have, or even being dramatic about what you want. That is you becoming. That is the next version of you. Just asking for room to exist.

You've spent decades building something not just a career, but actual knowledge. The kind of wisdom that only comes from living through things, experiencing things, from being in the room when it mattered. From showing up when it was hard. From figuring out over time who you actually are and what you actually believe. And somewhere along the way, the world around you may have stopped seeing that experience and knowledge as valuable. May have started looking past you for someone younger or cheaper or louder. That's their loss, not yours. What you know belongs to you. What you've lived belongs to you and you get to decide what to do with it next. You're changing. You're becoming a new version of yourself. And that is not something to fix or rush or explain to anyone. That is a beautiful thing.

I don't want this to just be my story. I really want to hear yours. If this episode put words to something that you've been carrying around that you've been feeling, you didn't quite have the language for before, I want to know. Please send me a DM on Instagram and just tell me what kind of woman are you becoming? There's no right or wrong answer. I just want to hear what's true for you right now.

And if you want to keep this conversation going, hit follow so you don't miss what's coming next. Because this is just the beginning of what I think is going to be a really important thread on this show. I'll see you in the next episode.

Have you ever had that moment where someone tells you to niche down and something inside you just deflates? Like you've spent twenty, thirty years doing one hundred different things, living a full life, building real experiences, and now someone's telling you to squeeze all of that into one lane. Today, I want to challenge that completely because the truth is, you are the niche. Your story, your opinion, your lens, your lived experiences. That's not a limitation. It's your biggest advantage.

And by the end of this episode, I want you to actually understand what that means in practice, not just as a nice idea.

So let's start by talking about the problem. The online business world has a niche obsession, and in theory it makes sense, I get it. One topic, one audience, one outcome. It sounds clean on paper.

But here's the reality. Most of us have had full careers, raised families, navigated huge life changes, sometimes more than once. How do you boil all of that down into one thing?

This is where the paralysis kicks in. You spend so long trying to figure out what your niche is that you actually never start. And it's really easy to fall into that comparisonitis trap. Looking at other people's businesses, trying to reverse engineer their niche for yourself. But if you pick a niche based on what you think you're supposed to pick, you'll end up building something that doesn't feel like you and your audience will sense it. They'll feel that disconnect even if they can't name it.

So many women tell me they feel like they've been living on autopilot for years, doing what was expected. Being who everyone else needed them to be. Employee, mother, or partner, caretaker. And somewhere in all of that, they lost track of what they actually want. Then someone says niche down and it feels like one more box you need to fit into.

There's research showing that women tend to wait until they feel ninety percent ready before they take action, while men take action at fifty to sixty percent ready. We do the same thing with our niche. We wait until we've perfectly figured it out before we let ourselves start.

So let's reframe this. Your niche is not a topic. It's you, your lens, your opinions, your story, your lived experiences. That's what makes you different from everyone else talking about the same thing. Someone else can teach the same content, but they cannot be you, and that matters more than you think.

This is especially true for women over forty, in my opinion. You have twenty, thirty or maybe forty years of experience shaping the way you see everything. That perspective. That's what your audience is actually buying. When someone chooses to listen to you, to work with you, they're not just buying the topic, they're buying your take on the topic, your experience, your energy. You.

The offer is the vehicle. You are the destination.

So what actually makes someone magnetic? So if you are the niche, what does that actually mean day to day? Let's get specific because I don't want to leave this as something that you are listening to now and forget by the time the episode is over.

Think about a time that you scrolled past, let's say, a hundred reels and stopped on one. Maybe it wasn't even a topic you were searching for. You weren't thinking, hey, I need this advice today, but something about how that person delivered it caught you. Maybe it was their tone, their pacing, the way they said one sentence a little differently than everyone else saying the same basic idea. That's not the topic doing the work, that's them.

Or think about podcasts in general. You've probably had the experience of stumbling on to a show, hearing the host's voice for the first time and just sticking with it. Even on a topic you weren't specifically looking for. Because something about how they explained things made you want to keep listening. That's magnetism. It has nothing to do with the niche and everything to do with the person.

Maybe you've heard people on social media, like Gary Vaynerchuk, talk about this exact idea that in a crowded space, you are the differentiator. Not your topic, not your credentials. You. How you show up, your messaging, your energy, the thing that makes someone stop scrolling for you specifically, even when they weren't looking for what you're talking about.

And here's the part that matters for how you actually build this. You don't have to show up the same way in the same place every time. You might have an Instagram account. You may also have TikTok, a Facebook page, Substack, an email list, all with slightly different messages, different formats. Maybe you're using video on one, carousel posts on another, stories somewhere else. You might talk about five or six different topics across those platforms. They may all seem unrelated on the surface. That's fine. That's actually the point, because underneath every single one of those posts is the same through line. Your experience, your voice, your way of seeing things. People don't need you to say the same thing everywhere. They need to feel like it's you everywhere.

Consistency isn't about repeating the same message. It's about consistently being recognizably yourself, no matter what you're talking about or where you're talking about it. So let's talk about what this looks like in practice, because I want you to be able to picture it, not just agree with it in theory.

There's a financial coach I follow, and I think about this a lot. There are thousands of people teaching, budgeting and money mindset. What makes her different isn't her framework. It's that every single video she posts, no matter the topic, ends with the same version of the same line. No shame. We're just looking at the numbers. She's blunt, she's a little irreverent, she swears, and people who would never watch a typical finance video watch hers because of how she says things, not just what she says. That's her niche, not money. Her.

I'll use myself as another example. I help women over forty build digital products. But what makes someone choose me over anyone else? Teaching the same skill isn't just that I know how to build a course, it's that across the podcast, my emails, our TLC dashboard, socials, there's a consistent energy; direct, calm, no bullshit, warm. I've been in corporate, I left, I built two companies, and I'm still running them sixteen years later. And I talk about that in-between place, the excitement and the terror both, in almost everything I create. That thread is what people are actually following.

Or think about the woman who posts closet organizing content. Anyone can teach a folding method, but maybe hers is the dry, deadpan commentary she gives while she's doing it right. It's the specific way she rolls her eyes at chaos before she fixes it. You don't stop scrolling because you needed organizing tips that day. You stop because of her.

None of these women are teaching something no one else teaches. What makes each of them magnetic is the same thing. They show up as fully recognizably themselves, consistently across whatever they're creating.

So what does this mean for you? Let's talk about how this actually plays out. Your content can be broad. You can talk about all the things you care about and you've lived through, even if they seem unrelated to each other on the surface. But your offer should be specific. One clear result you help people get right now and through all of it, you are always the thread. So stop trying to be the category. Be the person people find when they search for it, and then keep coming back to because of how you talk about it.

You don't have to pick one topic forever, you just need one clear result to lead with for now. And the willingness to let your actual personality show up while you lead with it. So the question isn't what's my niche? The question is, what's the one result I can help someone get, and can I show up as fully myself while I do it?

You know, midlife has a way of stripping things back. You start to see clearly what actually matters and maybe what you've been tolerating that no longer fits. That clarity is a business asset. You're not starting over. You're starting from experience. And there's a world of difference between those two things.

If this episode landed, let's keep this conversation going. Every week I send an email where I go even deeper on topics like this practical, no BS insights for women over forty who are interested in building something of their own. The links in the show notes. It's free. It's short and it's written specifically for you. So come hang out with us. We'd love to have you there.

Until next week. Remember, just a number.

You've quit an idea because it didn't take off in three weeks, or you've got so many ideas, files, and notes that you can't even open the folder without feeling a little sick. Sound familiar? Those are two completely different problems. And today I'm showing you exactly what fixes each one.

Most advice about turning what you know into income hands you one path. Pick a niche. Build an audience, and launch a course. If your life doesn't fit that path, it's easy to think something is wrong with you. Nothing is wrong with you. You've just never been shown your actual starting point because everyone assumes it looks the same for anyone. And the starting point really does look different depending on who you are.

Maybe one of you is still working a full time job and trying to build a side hustle. Forty minutes here and there before anyone else in the house wakes up. Or one of you just retired and has all the time in the world, but your professional identity walked out the door along with your last paycheck. Or maybe you're the person everyone calls for advice for years and has never once thought to call that a skill.

Every one of those is a real starting point. None of them needs to look like anyone else's. The starting point isn't just about who you are, it's about what you're comparing yourself to.

You see someone post that they sold out a course in a weekend, or that a launch went viral overnight and it looks instant. It rarely is. Most of the time, there's an audience that took months or years to build. There was warm up content that was leading people toward that exact moment. There were conversations happening in DMs and comment sections long before the launch, and there was a lot of quiet, unglamorous work happening behind the scenes that nobody ever posted about.

What you're seeing is the last five minutes of something that took a lot longer to build. So when you compare your first week to someone else's launch day, you're not comparing two starting points. You're comparing a beginning to an ending.

We're going to take a look at the situations of two women I've worked with. Same goal, completely different starting points.

Let's start with the first person and what she was struggling with. She had a topic that she was really excited about with a lot of knowledge, a clear area of expertise. She started ... a few weeks in when it hadn't taken off, she assumed the topic was wrong, so she switched. Then the new one didn't take off fast enough either. So she switched again. Every time the pattern looked the same. Excitement with a fast start. Then a few quiet weeks, and then the conclusion that it must not be the right idea after all.

By the time she came to us, she'd started and walked away from three different offers in under a year. Every one of those had real potential. What she'd actually built up without realizing it was a habit of quitting right before the slow part turned into traction.

That's such a common pattern. Most things that eventually work also go through a stretch where they don't look like they're working yet. What was actually happening had nothing to do with the idea. She was comparing her week three to someone else's year three. She'd see another woman in a similar space who was posting about a big launch, and she had no way of knowing that woman had been building an email list for eighteen months, or maybe had a friend with a large following to share her work, or had spent a full year showing up every day consistently before that launch ever happened. All she saw was the result.

So every time her own version didn't look like that result within a few weeks, she read it as a failure instead of a normal part of the timeline. A clear sense of what "working" is supposed to look like at three weeks versus three months or versus a year would have really helped her.

That's exactly what our Digital Dashboard's offer options section gives you ... a breakdown of common offer types, along with the time, energy, and tools that each one requires.

If she'd known going in that something like a template pack, for example, typically needs to be seen by a good number of the right people before it starts selling consistently. And that building, that kind of visibility usually takes a couple of months, at least, of steady effort. She maybe would have read her first month completely differently. Once you know, a certain kind of offer typically takes real time in order to gain traction. A slow start stops feeling like a verdict. It just feels like where you are on a timeline that you already expected.

She didn't need a better idea. She needed to know what a fair shot actually looks like before deciding something had failed.

Here's what the other woman was struggling with. A medical crisis turned into a financial one, and she needed income faster than most people ever have to. She had years of experience in the wellness space, real expertise built over a long career working with clients in person. She also had something else a few peers in her industry, people that she built relationships and real trust with over the years offered to let her fold pieces of their own programs and material into whatever she built so she wouldn't have to start entirely from scratch. It was a really generous offer, but it also meant she was now managing two full sets of material instead of one, at the exact moment she had the least bandwidth of her life to manage anything.

Her own notes lived in one place, other people's resources lived somewhere else. Ideas that she'd been sitting on for years were scattered across different files and folders and platforms, and there was no central place to see any of it all at once.

She wasn't short on material. She had more than enough of it. What she didn't have was a way to see it all together, especially while she was also dealing with a health crisis and the fear of not being able to cover her bills.

Here's what would have actually helped her. One place to hold everything. She had permission to use hers and borrowed both so she could actually see it and sort through it, instead of just trying to carry it all in her head while everything else in her life felt uncertain. That's exactly what the content vault inside the dashboard is built for. Not just getting your own ideas out of your head, but gathering everything you're allowed to use into a single view. So nothing gets lost and nothing gets used without you remembering where it came from instead of sitting down and trying to remember what lived where.

Opening one central place and seeing her own notes right next to what she'd been given permission to use, would have turned a frantic scramble into an actual sorting process. When you're moving fast because you have to. That single view is the difference between building something real and just spinning in place. She didn't need more expertise. She had plenty. She needed one place to hold what she already had so she could actually use it instead of just carrying it.

Two women. Two completely different starting points. One kept quitting too soon because she was measuring herself against a finish line. She never saw the full story behind. One was drowning in too much, too fast, carrying her own knowledge and other people's material with no place to set any of it down.

That's the real reason that a single "how to start" doesn't work for everyone reading the same five steps. The steps aren't the problem. The starting point underneath them is different every time. Neither of these women needed a niche. Neither of them needed a bigger plan. Neither of them needed more advice piled on top of what they already knew. What they both needed was a place to sort what they had, get a realistic read on their own time and energy, and choose one starting point instead of staying stuck in the guessing.

So wherever you're starting from, the dashboard meets you there. It won't hand you a niche or a big plan, and it's not going to add one more voice to the pile of advice you've already heard. It's going to give you a reality check on what's realistic for you right now. A clear look at your offer options, and one central place to gather everything you have to work with. You don't have to have it all figured out before you open it. You just have to be ready to look at what you've actually got.

You'll find the link in the show notes. Until next week. Remember, Just a Number.

How long have you been thinking about starting something of your own? I'm not talking about a passing thought, but a proper "I could actually do this" moment. The kind that shows up while you're washing dishes or driving, taking a shower or lying awake at midnight and it just won't leave you alone. Has it been a month, a year, longer than that? And here you are, still thinking, still not started.

Maybe you've bought the domain name and let it sit there for eight months. Or you've got a notes app full of ideas you've never told a single living soul about. Or maybe you're watching a friend launch the exact thing you've been quietly considering for years and felt happy for her, and also a little sick to your stomach.

Is it your age? Is it the tech? I hear this all the time in messages, comments, and conversations with women who go back to the same two lines every single time. I'm too old to figure this out, or I just can't wrap my head around the technology. Sometimes it's mentioned like a joke. Sometimes it's dead serious, said quietly, almost like a confession. That's not what's stopping you, either. None of these things. They're the easy answers. The ones that let you off the hook without asking anything harder of yourself. In this episode, we're going to walk through what's actually stopping you and what to do about it.

Let's deal with age fast, because you already know where I stand on this from the very first episode of the show.

A study out of MIT Sloan and Northwestern's Kellogg School looked at who was actually behind the fastest growing new ideas in the country. The average age wasn't twenty five, it was forty five. And the largest percentages of new businesses are started by women over forty.

All the years you've spent developing experience and expertise, so far, none of that was empty space. It's exactly the material that shows up in results like the findings in the study. So we're not going to spend this whole episode rehashing something you already know in your bones. Age isn't it. Tech, we haven't really gone near yet, so let's talk about it.

Fear of technology at this stage of life is rarely really about technology. Most of the women I talk to can figure out a checkout page in twenty minutes once they sit down and actually try it. What they are truly afraid of is being watched while they figure it out. Clicking the wrong button in front of a screen recording. Asking a question maybe that feels like it should be obvious. Looking even for a moment, like someone who doesn't already know how to do this.

And it's not really about being unable to learn it either. Most of the women I work with pick up the actual mechanics fast, often faster than they expected to. What really slows things down in the moment right before they hit publish, or send, or go live. When the learning stops being private and starts being watched. That pause has nothing to do with intelligence or capability. It's just what it feels like to do something new where other people can see the attempt, not just the finished result.

You don't need to be a wizard with software. You need one offer, one way for someone to pay you, and one way to deliver what you promised. A simple page describing your offer. A button that takes a payment, and an email that sends your deliverable, or maybe a calendar link if what you're delivering is your time. That's the whole engine. Everything else; funnels, automations, algorithms, is stuff you can add later if you ever want to. And plenty of women never do and still build something that changes their life.

Women who've never built anything online in their life can set this up and publish it within a single afternoon. It's not polished, but it's live and it's able to take a payment. The tech gets simpler every single time you touch it. The same way any new skill feels impossible right up until the moment it doesn't.

So if it's not your age and it's not actually the technology either, what is it? What's actually stopping you?

What's stopping you doesn't show up on a resume. It's not going to show up on a Google or YouTube search about age or technology either. It's smaller than that, and it's a lot more specific. You're afraid of being a beginner in public at this point in your life. Think about how strange that actually is when you say it out loud. You've been a beginner before. Plenty of times.

First day of a job you've never done. First time holding a baby who doesn't come with an instruction manual. First time running a meeting where you're the least experienced person in the room. had to fake your way through it until you weren't faking anymore. You survived every one of those. Maybe you were bad at all of them at first, but nobody revoked your membership card to adulthood because of it.

But somewhere along the way, the rules changed. At twenty five, being a beginner's expected, it's basically the whole job description. Nobody looks at a twenty five year old fumbling through something new and thinks less of her for it. But at forty five, fifty five, sixty five, there's this unspoken agreement that you're supposed to have arrived already, that you should know things by now. And the idea of being visibly new at something in front of people who've known you as capable for decades feels like it costs something that starting fresh when you were twenty five never did. It feels like it risks the one thing you've spent your whole life building. The sense that you're someone who has her shit together.

There's also something particular about doing this in public, out loud, on the internet that's different from other times you've been a beginner. Nobody filmed you learning to change a diaper at two in the morning. Nobody screenshotted your first terrible presentation and then kept it in a folder to compare against your fifth one. Most of the beginner stretches in your life happened somewhere private enough that only a few people ever saw the rough draft of you.

This one doesn't offer that privacy, or at least it doesn't feel like it does. And that makes us anxious. It's not simply that you're afraid of being new. You're afraid of being new, somewhere permanent, and somewhere searchable, a lot more visible than anything you've had to be a beginner at before. That's what tech actually threatens. It's not the buttons, it's the exposure. The chance that your grown kids, your family, friends, your colleagues, or the woman from your book club will watch you be new at something, and you'll have to sit in that for a minute instead of actually being good at it. And it's not only tech. It shows up anywhere. You'd have to let people watch you not yet be excellent.

Posting the first version of something before it's polished, or telling one person what you're building and hearing crickets. Pricing something for the first time and wondering if you got it wrong. Every one of those requires the same thing. Being willing to be a beginner where people can see you and it doesn't show up evenly across every task either.

You might be completely at ease running a five person meeting off the cuff, but sit down to record a thirty second video of yourself explaining your offer, and suddenly your hands don't know what to do and your voice doesn't sound like your own. That's not a contradiction. Meetings you've done thousands of times. This, whatever this new thing is, you've barely done it at all yet. And that gap is exactly where the discomfort lives. It has nothing to do with whether you're capable. It has everything to do with how many hours you've logged doing this particular new thing. And right now you just haven't logged many yet. Same as everyone the first time they tried it too.

So instead, a lot of us do the same thing. We keep practicing where nobody can see. We spend hours rewriting the same paragraph over and over. We rerecord the same video until the lighting is perfect and the words come out smoothly, and somehow it still doesn't feel ready to post. We tell ourselves we're being careful or thorough, and sometimes we are. And often what's actually happening is we're trying to skip the part where anyone watches us be new at this by getting good at it first alone in private, before a single other person ever has to see the rough draft.

The trouble is, that's not actually possible. There's no version of this where you get to arrive already finished. The rough draft has to happen somewhere. And if it can't happen in private forever, at some point it has to happen where people can see it.

None of that is really about confidence. A woman who has decades of lived experience has already proven she can handle far harder things than a checkout page or a real. This was never a confidence problem. It's an exposure problem dressed up as a confidence problem, because that's just easier to say out loud.

I watched this exact moment happen over and over with people I work with. Everything is ready. The offer makes sense. The plan is solid, and then when it's time to hit publish on the first real public, findable piece of it, something freezes. Not because anything is actually wrong. Because for the first time in a long time, they're about to be seen doing something they haven't already mastered. And that feeling is so unfamiliar at this stage of life that it gets misread as evidence that something's wrong instead of just being what beginnings feel like.

The version of you that other people already respect. The one who seems like she has it all figured out, was a beginner at every single thing she's good at in front of someone at some point. She didn't arrive knowing how to run a household, manage a team, hold a family together, whatever it may be. She fumbled through the early version of all of that in front of people closest to her, and it didn't disqualify her. It's actually the entire reason she has anything worth sharing and teaching now.

The confidence you're worried about not having yet isn't a precondition for starting. It's what's starting eventually produces. The same way it did every other time in your life you can't quite remember agreeing to become a beginner because you just were one, and then you weren't anymore.

So when the fear shows up dressed as 'I'm too old for this' or 'I can't figure out the tech', what's actually underneath it is something much more specific. You don't want to be watched while you're still figuring it out. And that is a completely valid and normal thing to feel. This is also why the usual advice like just be more confident or just push through the fear never actually works for very long. It's treating something completely normal and completely temporary like there's a personal flaw that needs fixing when really there's nothing to fix. There's just a stretch that you need to move through. The same stretch everyone moves through, whether they talk about it out loud or not. And feeling that discomfort is also not a reason to stay exactly where you are for another year, another month, another day.

So here's the reframe. You don't need to stop being afraid of being seen as a beginner before you start. You need to accept that being a beginner visibly for a little while is simply the price for building something new. And it's a price everyone who's ever built anything worth having has paid, including every single person you currently admire.

I didn't wait until I felt like I already knew what I was doing. I started while I was still figuring it out, terrified, in front of people, and some of it was definitely messy. And none of that clumsiness turned out to matter nearly as much as I thought it would. What mattered was that I kept going long enough for the messy part to turn into the competent part, which it always eventually does, as long as you don't quit in the middle because of embarrassment.

That in-between stretch the part where you're visibly still learning, it doesn't last as long as the fear tells you it will. The first post is the hardest one. The tenth one is just a Tuesday. The first time you fumble through explaining your offer out loud, you'll remember it for a week. By the twentieth time, you won't remember it at all, and neither will anyone who saw it because they were busy worrying about their own beginning, not cataloging yours.

The very fact that you're a beginner at this specific thing is proof of something good, not something concerning. It means you're finally doing the thing instead of only thinking about it. If you'd already mastered it, you wouldn't be building it right now. You would have built it years ago. Being new at this isn't a sign you waited too long. It's just what the actual beginning of anything looks like for absolutely everyone. No exceptions, including the women you may be comparing yourself to right now, who look like they've never struggled with a single thing in their life.

So the next time that feeling shows up, the one that whispers, 'you should already be better at this by now', try calling it what it actually is. It's not proof you're too old. It's not proof the tech is too hard for you. It's just the very normal, very temporary feeling of being new at something. And it goes away the exact same way it's always gone away for you before. You just keep going. Maybe badly at first, then fine, then eventually great.

The exposure feels a lot smaller when you're not the only one who sees it. Doing this stretch completely alone with nobody else aware of how new you are at any of it, makes every small stumble feel like private evidence against you. Doing it with even one other person who's watched plenty of women go through the exact same middle, and who can tell you plainly whether something's actually a problem or just what the beginning normally looks like, changes the whole experience. It doesn't remove the discomfort. It just means you're not carrying it by yourself.

So now you know what's actually stopping you. Not your age, not the tech. It's the very ordinary, very very human discomfort of being new at something while people are watching at a stage of life where maybe you didn't expect to be new at anything. Again, you're allowed to be a beginner again. You're allowed to be visibly and perfectly new at something the same way you were allowed to be new at every single thing you've ever eventually gotten good at. It was never a one time allowance you used up in your twenties.

This isn't about needing more proof you're capable. You already have decades of that. It's about being willing to let people watch you build the next part of it in real time, instead of only showing up once it's finished and safe. That's what we help with at TLC creative. We don't just help you build a digital offer. We walk alongside women through exactly the stretch, that clumsy, visible middle part where it's still a little uncomfortable and you're learning it in front of people until it turns into something you're actually good at, using everything you already know instead of waiting until you know even more.

I hope today's episode gave you a little bit of relief, and maybe made being a beginner again feel a little less like something to hide. If you recognize yourself in anything I talked about today, I want to invite you to book a free call with us. It's just a conversation. I promise, no pressure and no pitch. You tell me where you are and I'll help you see what's possible from their beginner stage and all. You don't need the polished version to book it. The whole point is just us talking through it while it's still a little rough. The link is in the show notes, so go ahead and book your call. And if you haven't already, hit follow so you don't miss next week's episode. Until next week. Remember, just a number.

Over the past few weeks, we've talked about who you are, what's possible for you, and what's been keeping you stuck.

Since you're here, I'm guessing you're someone who's ready to actually think about what building a digital product or offer looks like. Here's the question I get more than almost any other in one form or another. What does working with someone actually look like? What's the real difference between done with you and done for you, and how do you know which one's right for you? So today, that's exactly what we're doing. I'm going to lay it all out clearly and simply without confusion. One of the biggest reasons people never book a call isn't money. It's fear of the unknown. They don't know what they're walking into, so they just don't walk in at all. By the end of this episode, you're going to know exactly which path fits where you are right now.

Now, before you pick a path, let's back up for just a second and get clear on where you're actually starting from, because that matters more than which option sounds fancier.

I see two types of women show up at TLC creative over and over again. Type one says something like, I have an idea for a digital product. I know roughly what I want to build, I just need someone to guide me and keep me accountable so I actually finish it. If that's you, that's a done with you offer. Type two says something more like, I know exactly what I want to create. I've tried to start more than once on my own, but I keep getting overwhelmed and stuck and I just want someone to take this whole thing off my plate and build it for me. If that's you, that's a done for you offer.

Neither one is better than the other. They're just different starting points and different needs. Both are completely valid.

So let's start with done with you. Because for a lot of you, this is probably the one that feels the most familiar. Done with you means hands on support with a clear method and steady momentum. You stay in the driver's seat and we're right there next to you, guiding you, consulting you through the build so you're not sitting there guessing your way through things like structure and messaging and systems on your own. This is probably your lane if you want to build a product with guidance. You want to stay hands on without drowning in overwhelm. And you know you move faster when someone's holding you accountable.

Here's what that actually includes. First, a structured path using our own TLC creative method: Clarify. Create. Connect. Convert. Second, offer a messaging refinement. So what you're saying actually lands with your audience. And third, a simplified email and tech plan. So you're not white knuckling your way through software that you've never touched. This is not another course that's going to sit in your inbox until you feel guilty about it. It's not a course at all. This is co-creation. You've already done the work. You've lived the experience. Now you're ready to turn what you know into something that sells without having to figure every piece of it out completely alone.

This isn't a hand over and disappear kind of arrangement. You're going to do the work, but you will have us right there with you at every step. Even when that step is just something like, hey, can you check out what I just did and tell me if I'm on the right track? That reassurance is part of what we do too. And here's the outcome. You don't just walk away with a finished digital product or offer. You walk away actually understanding how you built it. And that knowledge, once it's yours, it's yours forever. So you can rinse and repeat and create as many offers and products as you like. Nobody can take that away from you.

Now let's talk about done for you because this one's a different animal entirely. Done for you means we take the whole build off your hands completely. You bring the vision and the real world experience, the things only you know how to talk about. You hand over your content and then we build the entire offer ecosystem around it. I'm talking strategy, structure, systems, the whole thing. And this is probably for you if you want to hand off the build entirely. You want to protect your time and your mental bandwidth. And what you're really after is a polished, launch ready foundation and not a handful of half finished pieces that you're trying to stitch together yourself.

Here's what that actually looks like. We're going to map out your offer structure and your curriculum from the ground up. Then we refine your messaging so it's polished, but it still sounds like you. Not a generic version of you. We're going to streamline all the automations and back end tech. So it's ready to promote and sell. And we build your full client journey from the moment someone opts in to the moment they're onboarded. So it's already working for you before you even launch.

Now, this is our white glove option. You're paying for our time and our care. So you don't have to spend yours untangling structure and tech that you didn't sign up to learn. We don't take shortcuts here. We listen, we consult, we lead, and we build something that actually reflects the depth of your experience, not a watered down version of it. And the outcome. It's a finished, ready to sell digital product or offer. You show up with what you know and we hand you back something ready to go. Something that's fully yours to sell.

Okay, so how do you actually know which one is the right path for you? Here's a simple gut check. Just ask yourself these questions. Do you want to be hands on and learn the process as you go? If the answer is yes, that's a done with you offer. Or do you want it handled so you can stay focused on what you're already best at? That's a done for you offer. And if you're sitting there thinking, I don't really even know what my offer is yet. That's okay too. Starting with our digital dashboard first helps you gain some clarity. Then we can have a conversation.

Now let's talk money for a second, because I know you're wondering. Done with you saves you money and costs you more of your time. Done for you costs more money and gives you your time back. Neither one is the wrong answer. It really just depends on what you're actually short on right now, time or money.

And if you got through all of that and you're still not sure, that's exactly what our free call is for, booking a call with us is not a commitment. It is just a conversation, nothing more. You tell me where you are, what you're trying to build. Maybe we talk about what's been standing in your way. And I'll tell you straight which path actually makes sense for you. Even if that path isn't working with us right now. Even if it's neither of these options at all. That's the kind of guide I want to be for you, not someone who's going to put you in a box, but someone who helps you find the right door and actually walk through it.

I hope today's episode gave you a clearer picture of what working together actually looks like, and made this decision feel a little lighter, because you don't have to guess your way through it alone either. And if this helped you even a little, please hit follow so you don't miss what's next. And when you're ready, the link to book your free call is sitting right there in the show notes. We'd love to talk to you. Until next week. Remember, Just a Number.

Right now, today, I'm juggling client projects, marketing the show, writing new episodes, and answering questions from women who want to know how to do exactly what I'm going to talk about.

Not telling you this from some finished look back and laugh place. I'm telling you this because I'm in it. And if you've been waiting for a big open block of time to finally start building something of your own, I want to talk you out of that today.

When was the last time you had an actual free hour just sitting there waiting for you to use it? Not when you scraped together by staying up too late or getting up early. A real one that just showed up on its own. If you're anything like me, that's pretty much never. And if you've been waiting for that hour to just magically show up before you start building a digital product or offer, you're likely going to be waiting a long time.

I run a business, so I've got client work with deadlines, marketing that never actually finishes, this podcast every single week, and people reaching out with questions about how any of this might actually work for them. Some weeks I'm just so damn busy I don't even know which fire to put out first. None of that stops so I can build something new. It just doesn't work like that.

Something I don't talk about a lot is when I first started thinking about building my own courses and products separate from the client work I was doing. I had spent years doing it, so it wasn't a lack of knowledge, but it required a completely different mindset for me. It just didn't feel like a natural next step. It felt like a whole new muscle I needed to develop, and it took a long time to actually put together because I was busy with everything else that was already on my plate.

I still live that today. This podcast is a great example. Most weeks it's just me coming up with a topic, writing it, recording and editing, getting it out into the world, and then actually talking about it so people will go listen. We have a very small team and sometimes those people are pulled onto other projects. So some weeks I'm doing this whole thing start to finish completely on my own. So if your life feels like a full plate that was already full before this idea ever showed up, you know, a job, maybe a family, friends, people who needed you. I guess your life looks a lot like mine.

And that's exactly why "just start small" isn't great advice in my opinion. It just gets said so much that it stopped meaning anything. What does small even look like on a day when you've got a full inbox, a kid who needs a ride, a client waiting on something from you. That vague kind of advice? It's easy to ignore, but a specific one is a lot harder to talk yourself out of.

It's not big progress versus small progress. It's small progress versus none at all. Because that's usually the real choice in front of you, whether you notice it or not. It's not asking, should I build the whole thing this weekend? It's more like, do I do one small thing today or do I let another week go by with that idea I have just sitting there in the back of my mind again? And I get why doing nothing feels like the safer option. If you haven't cleared a big chunk of time, it can feel like there's no point starting anything at all.

I've had that exact feeling and thought myself this week. Looking at my week and thinking, where in the hell am I supposed to find an extra hour for this on top of everything else. It's easy to tell yourself it doesn't count unless it's blocked off on your calendar. Fifteen minutes here and there kind of feels like cheating.

But flip that around for a second. Protecting fifteen minutes for something you actually want to build isn't cheating anybody. It's you putting yourself on the list for once instead of letting everyone and everything else get first pick of your time. That's not a small thing.

And an idea that stays in your head doesn't get you anywhere, no matter how good it is. But a messy list on your phone? Jot it down in five minutes at a red light moves you forward more than a perfect plan you never actually write down.

I think a lot of us get stuck here because we're comparing our fifteen minutes to someone else's whole weekend retreat. And of course, in comparison, fifteen minutes looks super small next to that. But you're not in competition with their schedule. You're only working with yours, and yours counts just as much. So instead of asking whether you have enough time for this, ask what you can actually do with the time you have today. Totally different question. And only one of them actually has an answer.

Now, because this is where most advice stays way too fuzzy to actually use, let's just break this down. Some nights that fifteen minutes is choosing not to watch another episode of something on Netflix and instead sitting down and getting your thoughts out of your head and onto a page. I'm not talking about a perfect page, just a page. Some days it might look like sitting at your kids practice. You're already there. You're already going to be on that bench for an hour anyway. So instead of spending the whole time chatting with the other parents, pull out your phone and jot down whatever's been floating around in your mind. Even a few lines count. Or maybe you find ten minutes before everyone else in the house wakes up. You've got a great hot cup of coffee in your hand, and before the day even starts pulling at you from six different directions. Or the parking lot before you walk into work, or a waiting room you can't get out of anyway because you have an appointment.

None of it has to be organized. It doesn't have to make sense to anyone but you. Yet you're not writing a finished offer sitting on that bench. You're just getting it out of your head because an idea that stays trapped up there, well, it can't turn into anything.

And this one might surprise you. One of the easiest ways to do this is just talking to AI. You can open up ChatGPT or Claude or whatever you prefer to use, and start just explaining your idea the way you would tell a friend over a drink. The messy version, the one that maybe feels too small or too obvious or too far from being real. It doesn't matter how far away it feels right now.

It's actually really good at taking those scattered thoughts and helping you shape them into something that starts to resemble an actual offer. You just talk. It helps you organize. It'll even ask you questions that you maybe haven't thought of yet. For a lot of women I talk to, that's the whole first step.

None of this requires a free weekend. It just requires deciding it matters enough to protect a few minutes for it on purpose instead of letting those minutes disappear.

So what's actually waiting on the other side, and why is it worth it? You don't need a big complicated product to make this work. A simple offer price low doesn't need thousands of buyers to matter.

Let's say you price something at fifteen dollars or twenty dollars. One hundred people buy it. That's fifteen hundred to two thousand dollars just from organic marketing with no ad spend, no huge following required. You don't need a massive audience for that. You just need to find the right small group of people who will benefit from exactly what you're offering.

Now, that kind of income might not replace what you're making somewhere else. Not at first, but as a start, as something building alongside everything else you're doing, it adds up. It's real money sitting in your own pocket that came directly from something you created and you built.

Once you see even a handful of people buy what you made, once you hear it actually helps someone that changes something in you, it stops being a maybe it becomes inspiration and fuel.

You start wanting to make the next thing. Or you start going back and making the first thing even better, you know, tightening it up a bit, fixing the part that felt a little clunky. You can start actually talking to the people who bought it, ask them what they're struggling with now, and then figure out what else you could build for them inside the thing you already know how to do. Build it. Sell it. Listen to what they tell you. Go and improve it. That's really what keeps you going long after the initial motivation wears off.

That's not a hustle story. That's just what happens when something real starts working. Even in a small way, even if it started as fifteen minutes at a kids practice. This isn't really about finding time. Time doesn't just show up on its own waiting for you to notice it. It's about making a decision today that this matters enough to protect a small piece of your day for it. That might mean putting your phone down before you start doom scrolling and opening a notes app instead. It could mean staying in the car five extra minutes after you park to get a thought down before it disappears, or maybe using part of your lunch break for that instead of catching up on group texts.

None of it has to happen on the timeline the internet is selling you. It might take a little longer than you'd like. I know it did for me. But once you know what's actually possible and you see that it's achievable, even on a slower timeline, you start finding ways to squeeze it into the life you're already living instead of waiting for a life that has more room in it. What matters is that you're moving even in tiny pieces instead of staying still. Because the time never feels like enough. It never will feel like enough. Move anyway.

I hope today's episode gave you a clearer sense of what small can actually look like. And maybe one small window you can protect this week. If you haven't already, please follow the show so you don't miss what's coming next. I'll see you in the next episode. Remember, Just a Number.